Involve your partner in making decisions

A good friend went home one evening only to find that his wife had sold her car without informing him. They had been married for 10 years and have three children together, but the lady had the habit of making major decisions that eventually affect the family.

A good friend went home one evening only to find that his wife had sold her car without informing him. They had been married for 10 years and have three children together, but the lady had the habit of making major decisions that eventually affect the family.

This is not only being uncouth, but it shows how little you trust your partner to share with them important issues.

Cecilia, who has been married for 14 years, was surprised one day when she found out documents detailing property her husband had acquired in the time they have been married. More shocking is that her husband has never whispered to her that he is investing in property. In fact, he was always complaining of brokenness.

What would you do if you found this information about your spouse? Mary said she would walk out of the marriage because it shows lack of confidence from her partner.

Why would anyone pretend to be married when they actually don’t trust their spouses enough to share with them major projects they are undertaking? What brings this kind of attitude in some married people?

While some people think that everyone is entitled to their privacy and everything else that belongs to them, it has always been assumed that we get married to become one and hence they should do everything together, which includes making decisions.

But thanks to civilisation and emancipation, there are now two types of couples. The old-fashioned type, who, when one talks, the other finishes the sentence for him or her. In this relationship, you are able to tell that there are no secrets between the two.

The other type of couples constitute the majority; the ones who make all decisions alone because they earn a seven-figure salary and drive top of the range car. They feel it is not important to inform their partners of what they want to do with their money.

Well, before you decide to walk down the aisle, remember that marriage is a different ball game. When you enter into a union with someone, it means you enter it 100 per cent. You cease being “I” and the two of you become “we”.

 

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