Dear Aunt Silvia,

I am 28 year old lady. I have two lovers one is my age mate and the other is an old man who helps me in paying my bills. Recently, I found myself pregnant and when I told the old man, he told me that he can’t have children because he had an operation which stopped him from fathering children. I am very confused because, I am sure he is the father of my baby. Please help

Rabsha

Dear Rabsha,

I am very mad at you than anything else. How can you be involved in a sex relationship with two men at the same time? In this time of HIV/AIDS who can afford to let loose just like that? You have eyes but cannot see and ears but cannot hear. Take a good look around you, if not take a trip to a hospital and see how people living with AIDS are suffering. Some were innocently infected- while others lived a loose life like the one you are leading, and then you will think twice about what you are doing to yourself. The government is spending money and sleepless nights on how to help its citizen on how to protect themselves, while people like you are busy thwarting their efforts, girl, you need to be caned.

That aside – please get a way forward and stop sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry just so that your bills can be paid – get a life and work to earn your money so that you can pay your bills through your hard earned money.

So what makes you think that this man is the father of your baby? Considering the fact that you have been sleeping with two men at the same time? I know that it is only the woman who knows the real father of the baby, but don’t you think you are in a tricky situation here? Will you be able to tell whether on the day you conceived which man was in your bed? There are questions that you will not be able to answer until when the baby is born. If I were you I will hold my horses and wait until the baby arrives, that way you will be able to ascertain the paternity of your child, otherwise if you start playing these men now with your stupid games, you will end up loosing the real father of your baby.

Now, if the old man has told you that he can’t have children, because of an operation chances are that he underwent vasectomy.  Vasectomy is a surgical procedure for male sterilization and/or permanent birth control. During the procedure, the vasa deferentia of a man are severed, and then tied/sealed in a manner to prevent sperm from entering into the seminal stream (ejaculate).  This means that the man will continue to be sexual active, but will never father a child – and in most cases this operation is irreversible. In your case you need to sit down and think very hard about who the real father of your baby is, because in most cases- vasectomy has been said to very efficient, which means this old man is not the father of your baby.

This is the price you pay by being in multiple relationships. You have no alternative but to wait until when the baby arrives, so that your men can do a DNA test to ascertain as to whom between them fathered the baby.

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