RELATIONSHIPS : Fear of commitment

A mind that never wonders of what tomorrow holds has no fears at all in life. So many people are scared of committing giving a number of reasons which are never satisfactory to the persons they turn down.

A mind that never wonders of what tomorrow holds has no fears at all in life. 

So many people are scared of committing giving a number of reasons which are never satisfactory to the persons they turn down.

Even when they love their partners so much, the thought of committing makes their blood run cold; they start giving excuses on how they cannot promise anything big citing examples of their past failed relationships.

Commitment strikes fear in people where to such individuals the three little words ‘I love you’ sound so scary in their lives.

They are afraid of financial attachments and the other responsibilities that may come along. Some people feel they are being suffocated by the people they thought they loved.

Fear of commitment goes right from the choices we make in our daily lives. You may find it hard to decide on what type of food you want to eat when you go to a restaurant because you don’t know how the one you have left out on the menu tastes like.

The same thing will happen to you when you don’t want to take on an idea because you  possibly  think  you are closing your self out on the other chances that might come a long the way  and yet you cannot turn back.

Because you have your mind torn apart between your desires, you end up hanging in space with one of your legs at the front and the other at the back and you call this a dilemma yet it is out of your own making.

While in the search for partners we get convinced that we at one time have met the right soul mate only to turn out to be the wrong person you ask your self if the chemistry  did exist at the very start of the relation ship.

Many couples have ended up breaking up a few weeks after their engagement simply because they later discover they cannot spend the rest of their lives together for better or worse.

Some other people get divorced in their very first years of marriage once they realize they cannot tolerate each other ‘until death do us apart’.

When some choose to on a wife or a husband he is ready to become a wife or a husband and definitely agreeing to marry and to be married.

If you says you are worthy of some one else‘s love  then you must be capable of sustaining  along term exclusive relation ship which means you are mature enough, thoughtful enough and confident  enough to become an intimate partner.

Once a person can find the determination to commit therefore he is willing to go through all the huddles of life with the partner he chooses no matter whatever storms they face together.

People should therefore remember that, as much as they commit to their husbands and wives they are committing to their marriages as well a covenant that needs to be strengthened with love.

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