Leaving behind a legacy

I recently attended an event to pay tribute to an incredible fashion writer who passed on a year ago. Lydia Keturah was a writer and editor of a fashion magazine in Uganda. The memorial event was organised by her friends and colleagues not only to celebrate her life, but to also launch a fund...

Thursday, December 20, 2018, 11:39 PM

Security is the responsibility of everyone in the community

Last Friday while walking home from work at around 10pm, I got myself into trouble by pulling out my phone to watch a video, how silly can one be. My work place is not very far from where I live and since the whole stretch is lit, the temptation to walk is eminent, that and the fact that Kigali is...

Thursday, December 13, 2018, 8:29 PM

Why do people with jobs get more offers?

The growing trend of people having more than one job while others have none brings to mind a scripture in the Bible that says ‘those who have more shall be given and those that don’t have, even the little they have will be taken from them’. As a result, I am no longer...

Thursday, December 6, 2018, 11:37 PM

The woman and her weakness in bargaining

A lady came to me the other day and asked why women are normally slow to grab opportunities. I took a moment to think about that and wondered why someone would say so yet every day we come across many women working as hard or even harder than men. She told me that it had been weeks since she...

Thursday, November 29, 2018, 6:31 PM

What the heart wants

Is it in any way possible that we sometimes remain stuck with people and relationships that block us from our destiny? Is it possible that when you think your destiny is with the person you are with it could be with a totally different person? My friend Gladys moved in with two men over a...

Thursday, November 22, 2018, 9:24 PM

Too little too late

A young man passed on recently and of the many condolence messages on social media one caught my attention. A friend of the deceased tweeted how she wished she had visited him the day before like she had planned. How many of us have found ourselves in a similar situation? You receive a call...

Thursday, November 15, 2018, 11:16 PM

Add value to self, increase your bargaining power

A financial adviser I have the pleasure of interacting with every week recently talked about adding value to ourselves as a way of maximising our workplace opportunities. Luckily, in this day and age, there is a lot of material to enable us teach ourselves, upskill and expand our capabilities. The...

Thursday, November 8, 2018, 8:29 PM

When a man was a man

In spite of all the women empowerment and emancipation in this world, I am a strong believer in the Biblical principle that a man should be the head of the home and provider for his family. Like many women (though few would say it openly), my common phrase is ‘my money is my money and...

Thursday, November 1, 2018, 10:43 PM

Allow men to tell women they are beautiful

It has been said that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, so today I will become my own beholder and refer to myself as a very beautiful woman. We recently witnessed a cabinet reshuffle that saw some ministries done away with, other ministers being moved to different ministries and several...

Thursday, October 25, 2018, 8:08 PM

Nerea by Sauti Sol

The popular Kenyan group Sauti Sol once released a song titled Nerea, one of those times I felt like they had sat down to think of lyrics. In the song a man is appealing to Nerea not to terminate ‘his’ pregnancy. I love the song’s lyrics; they’re powerful, the kind that...

Thursday, October 18, 2018, 11:09 PM

The Awards that were

I havenever been so thrilled about an award nomination, in fact, in the past, I would learn from a friend that I had been nominated and some awards would find me at work. There was something special about the Smart Excellence Award, it was my first nomination in my new home of Rwanda, and it coming...

Thursday, October 11, 2018, 11:29 PM

When kids turn against you

I have always wondered what parents tell their children about each other and the effect it has in the long run. I once knew of a couple where the husband had a well-paying job and could afford to provide for his family. He left work upon reaching retirement age, meaning he had a lot of time on...

Thursday, October 4, 2018, 9:10 PM

The lies women tell

Sheila and I are tight, we talk about anything and everything and we know each other’s shady stories. She had talked of several men over the years but somehow, I never got to meet any of them, so I was pleasantly surprised and excited when she asked me to meet one of her boyfriends. This one...

Thursday, September 27, 2018, 11:07 PM

Nothing good comes out of a comfort zone

Brian‘Head’ Welch was founder and lead guitarist of a platinum winning band. At a point in his life he was consumed with fear when he overheard his daughter sing a song done by ‘Korn’ his band ‘all day I dream about sex,’ he wondered what he was doing to his...

Friday, September 21, 2018, 8:20 AM

Not sugar coated

On September 10 each year, the world observes World Suicide Prevention Day to raise awareness on suicide prevention. This year, I find myself thinking that one of the main contributors to suicide is bottling up the things that burden us. I feel that it is important for each one of us to have at...

Thursday, September 13, 2018, 9:19 PM

Rwanda Decides 2018

I cannot remember the last time an election season passed without me noticing it. There is a popular Swahili saying that states kutembea kwingi ni kuona mengi which loosely translates to ‘the more you travel the more you get to see and learn different things.’  Having lived in...

Thursday, September 6, 2018, 10:23 PM

The reckless nature of motorbike riders

In this region, with the kind of traffic we have, there are times you just want to (or have to) park your car and jump onto a motorbike, as life endangering as it is. They come in very handy when you need to get to a place fast. I recently got involved in a motorbike (moto) accident. Third time in...

Thursday, August 30, 2018, 11:43 PM

I am HIV positive

Yes, I can almost guess your reaction to the title of today’s article. It’s probably a mixture of surprise, fear, excitement, worry and the desire to quickly get on with the article to find out whether I’m writing about myself. Relax, this article is not about me but about the...

Thursday, August 23, 2018, 11:21 PM

When alcohol knocks and it’s let in

Every now and then I recall an incident at home where my sister and I were berating a younger sibling for drinking himself silly. His girlfriend was visiting and watched on as we screamed at each other and as her man downplayed the whole issue. The girl picked her bag and left but not before she...

Thursday, August 16, 2018, 11:20 PM

Why do we want expensive weddings?

I am not a big fan of wedding ceremonies and my close friends know that I will do anything possible to dodge them. This month is different, I have attended two weddings already and I have two more pending. In one month I will have attended more weddings than I have in the last three years! I...

Thursday, August 9, 2018, 11:40 PM

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