Forgive and be forgiven

Patrick was raised by a single mum owing to his parents parting ways only seven years after his birth. The mother did all she could to take her child through school. Along the way, there came a man who won her heart over and from this union, Patrick got three other siblings. Unfortunately this...

Friday, March 1, 2019, 12:36 AM

Butterflies caused by family gatherings

This week is ending well for me though it has been one of those where my stomach was filled with butterflies. I have two ‘married’ brothers. Married is in quotes because for an older brother, we did a traditional ceremony when their first born child was six years. The second one...

Friday, February 22, 2019, 2:58 AM

Laugh out loud (LOL)

One does not need money to laugh, it is what I was telling a guy early this week. I did an interview years ago and the editor chose to give that story the title ‘I laugh even about things that are not funny.’ In everything we talked about with the reporter who interviewed me, that...

Friday, February 15, 2019, 12:09 AM

A hero of a parent

For years whenever Heroes Day is celebrated, I hear people celebrate their mothers, mainly for giving birth to them. Not one to be easily hoodwinked, I look beyond; there must be something a parent has done to warrant them being called a hero besides the act of giving birth. Last Friday we...

Thursday, February 7, 2019, 11:13 PM

The things we post on the internet

There are things that people do without consideration of the consequences it would have on their future careers or relationships. I once requested a girlfriend of mine to pull down a Facebook post she had directed at her boss. I’m sure we all know people who have had ruthless bosses but in...

Friday, February 1, 2019, 12:00 AM

Leave a relationship with dignity

I recently sat down with an old friend and did some catching up. Of everything we shared that afternoon, the one that stood out was leaving a relationship with dignity. Any relationship, but I will focus on one that could or should lead to a marriage. Do you know anyone who lived in an informal...

Friday, January 25, 2019, 12:00 AM

If only there was a way

The last few days have seen #MuteRKelly trend on various social media circles.  As a result, I found myself tagged in a few tweets expressing disappointment in the fact that the radio station I work for was still playing R. Kelly’s music. I did not respond because I was in no position to...

Thursday, January 17, 2019, 10:59 PM

The R. Kelly in our midst

The story of R&B singer R. Kelly’s life and love has been told for many years. I have watched videos and read articles of women accusing him and journalists being castigated for exposing him. In response, R. Kelly has sang songs claiming that he is being witch hunted because he is a...

Thursday, January 10, 2019, 7:23 PM

Earn all you want but pay yourself first

Last week I got a number of comments in response to my article on New Year financial blues, with several people asking cynically which pastor had paid me to advocate for tithing. While I believe that the discipline that goes with tithing did the trick for me, I am not ignorant of the fact that...

Thursday, January 3, 2019, 10:19 PM

New year financial blues

For many of us, Christmas time is both exciting and challenging. As the year comes to an end, amidst all the celebrations, there are people that are wondering how they will survive come January. Some are celebrating while figuring out where they’ll borrow money to get them through the (...

Thursday, December 27, 2018, 10:26 PM

Leaving behind a legacy

I recently attended an event to pay tribute to an incredible fashion writer who passed on a year ago. Lydia Keturah was a writer and editor of a fashion magazine in Uganda. The memorial event was organised by her friends and colleagues not only to celebrate her life, but to also launch a fund...

Thursday, December 20, 2018, 11:39 PM

Security is the responsibility of everyone in the community

Last Friday while walking home from work at around 10pm, I got myself into trouble by pulling out my phone to watch a video, how silly can one be. My work place is not very far from where I live and since the whole stretch is lit, the temptation to walk is eminent, that and the fact that Kigali is...

Thursday, December 13, 2018, 8:29 PM

Why do people with jobs get more offers?

The growing trend of people having more than one job while others have none brings to mind a scripture in the Bible that says ‘those who have more shall be given and those that don’t have, even the little they have will be taken from them’. As a result, I am no longer...

Thursday, December 6, 2018, 11:37 PM

The woman and her weakness in bargaining

A lady came to me the other day and asked why women are normally slow to grab opportunities. I took a moment to think about that and wondered why someone would say so yet every day we come across many women working as hard or even harder than men. She told me that it had been weeks since she...

Thursday, November 29, 2018, 6:31 PM

What the heart wants

Is it in any way possible that we sometimes remain stuck with people and relationships that block us from our destiny? Is it possible that when you think your destiny is with the person you are with it could be with a totally different person? My friend Gladys moved in with two men over a...

Thursday, November 22, 2018, 9:24 PM

Too little too late

A young man passed on recently and of the many condolence messages on social media one caught my attention. A friend of the deceased tweeted how she wished she had visited him the day before like she had planned. How many of us have found ourselves in a similar situation? You receive a call...

Thursday, November 15, 2018, 11:16 PM

Add value to self, increase your bargaining power

A financial adviser I have the pleasure of interacting with every week recently talked about adding value to ourselves as a way of maximising our workplace opportunities. Luckily, in this day and age, there is a lot of material to enable us teach ourselves, upskill and expand our capabilities. The...

Thursday, November 8, 2018, 8:29 PM

When a man was a man

In spite of all the women empowerment and emancipation in this world, I am a strong believer in the Biblical principle that a man should be the head of the home and provider for his family. Like many women (though few would say it openly), my common phrase is ‘my money is my money and...

Thursday, November 1, 2018, 10:43 PM

Allow men to tell women they are beautiful

It has been said that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, so today I will become my own beholder and refer to myself as a very beautiful woman. We recently witnessed a cabinet reshuffle that saw some ministries done away with, other ministers being moved to different ministries and several...

Thursday, October 25, 2018, 8:08 PM

Nerea by Sauti Sol

The popular Kenyan group Sauti Sol once released a song titled Nerea, one of those times I felt like they had sat down to think of lyrics. In the song a man is appealing to Nerea not to terminate ‘his’ pregnancy. I love the song’s lyrics; they’re powerful, the kind that...

Thursday, October 18, 2018, 11:09 PM

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