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Long enough for me to believe I actually meant somethingI despise anyone who takes pride in wasting another’s time. I know relationships are tricky but some people should never be allowed to date. Guys literally chase after girls, get the goods, dump them then move on faster than Usain Bolt on roller skates. Anyone who moves on that fast couldn’t have been even vaguely serious about the relationship.Unless you are the hardest hearted individual on the planet, seeing the person you broke up with just seconds ago flaunting their new found ‘free’ status before you can even finish typing the ‘this isn’t working out’ text is a little disrespectful. I’m good at putting on a brave face; I will spot the guy I just broke up with and act like his departure was the best thing that ever happened to me. Sometimes I do it so well, I literally want to take myself out for a drink and celebrate my acting skills. Yes – that is exactly what it is, acting! Deep down, I am cursing the idiot for threatening to match my acting skills, with another wench. The worst part is that there is a good chance he is not acting!The point is, do not tell a girl you love her, dump her and then move on so fast that she doesn’t get to comprehend what happened! I’m not saying I would stay in my apartment all day staring at closed drapes, crying and drinking my sorrows away. Hell no. I’m saying at least give the breakup time to cool off.What’s the rush anyway? I am not here to break John Mayer’s dating records – neither do I don’t want to grow old and look back at my relationships as a string of miserable one night stands – because that is exactly what moving on hurriedly is – just a sequence of lousy one night stands thrown together!I’m not one of those people who pledge undying love knowing they don’t mean a word of it –like I said, I love myself way too much to ever suffer in a relationship I’m not feeling. When I say I love you, I actually mean it. So, it’s going to take more than a breakup to dilute the seriousness of those three little words! rachel.garuka@newtimes.co.rw