It can be very hard to tell the difference between obsession and love, especially if you are personally dealing with such. A healthy relationship has various outstanding factors that do not necessarily cause strain but may turn you into a spy of some sort. 

Some of the researched factors that lead women to obsession are the fact that some of these women either went through a traumatic experience in the past or they totally missed out on love and are completely new to it.

Women have the ideal kind of love played out in their minds. This may have been molded by what they watch on TV. The most unfortunate scenario is a woman who has no idea what it is like to be loved. Even though she may be smart and knows what she wants in life, she may have a tendency to play dumb and sing along in order to feel accepted.  This kind of woman sacrifices some important aspects of her life to be in a relationship.

She will do whatever it takes to be accepted by the guy she sees as ideal. For example, if you subdue your passion for music or you begin to disconnect with friends for the sake of a relationship, all is not well. 

Women are nurturing and loving, but they need to learn the art of loving themselves first before they seek being loved.

There is nothing wrong with being lonely; if you are lonely just focus on you for now and quit looking for attention. 

Love should be mutual. If he feels the same way, he will be compelled by love to reciprocate. If he doesn’t, chances are he does not feel the same way you do. I am of the opinion that people do not fall in love; people walk in love. It is a conscious decision.

The beauty about love is that there will always be someone who will love you for you. It may not be the person you expect or even want, but they do anyway. Monitor your own patterns and alert yourself when you need to seek external help. Keep account of your feelings and your thoughts; it is one way of getting baggage off your chest.