Resist sibling rivalry

Competition between siblings may seem harmless during childhood, but it brings out the worst later since it develops into jealousy during adulthood. It’s healthy to compete but the intention of the competition is what matters most. In most cases siblings of the same sex or those with a small age gap usually compete for parental attention and affection.

Monday, September 12, 2011
Siblings can live together in harmony. Net photo

Competition between siblings may seem harmless during childhood, but it brings out the worst later since it develops into jealousy during adulthood.

It’s healthy to compete but the intention of the competition is what matters most. In most cases siblings of the same sex or those with a small age gap usually compete for parental attention and affection.

Sibling rivalry can involve aggression; however, it is not the same as sibling abuse where one child victimizes another.

Watching the Nigerian Movie ‘Blood sisters’ featuring Genevieve Nnaji and Omotola Jalade potrays how sibling rivalry is dangerous if it transcends to adulthood. Genevieve‘s envy cost her sister’s life (Omotola) Genevieve murdered her sister so that she could get her perfect husband.

‘Blood sisters’ is a captivating story of two sisters growing up in a world of poverty were selfish desires are being realized and jealousy becomes the foundation of there household.

No matter how much you love your sister or brother, when sibling rivalry takes hold of you, it has a harsh effect on the ability to express affection.

One’s ability to succeed should not be based on what their siblings have acquired but instead emulate the example.

It’s always important to support one another in good times or bad times especially if you are siblings. Don’t let failure be the basis of trying to win; together siblings can conquer challenges.

Sometimes sibling rivalry is catalyzed by parents although they do it unconsciously. Parents are supposed to treat each child equally. They should give each child enough time and space of their own or give each child attention and encourage teamwork.

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