Dealing with a moody middle-aged partner

When a partner is going through midlife crisis, against all odds support them by being the anchor they hold on to. It’s a time they need you the most and below are some ways of handling such a situation.  Don’t fight at whatever cost; midlife crisis is a phase in life not a stagnant behaviour that one will never change. 

Thursday, June 23, 2011
Process your anger in a healthy way in order to solve misunderstandings.

When a partner is going through midlife crisis, against all odds support them by being the anchor they hold on to. It’s a time they need you the most and below are some ways of handling such a situation.

Don’t fight at whatever cost; midlife crisis is a phase in life not a stagnant behaviour that one will never change. 

Counseling is the best option for anyone going through psychological changes. Advise your partner to see a psychiatrist.

Be patient, practice patience with both yourself and your spouse. You are both going through changes and are experiencing a high level of emotional pain.

Process your anger in a healthy way. Get rid of your anger in a manner that means not engaging in conflict with your partner. Getting angry doesn’t solve anything but creates more chaos.

Listen to them without passing judgment; if your partner comes to you and wants to talk, be willing to listen. Judging how they are feeling or thinking should be avoided.

Try doing what they enjoy most; start building a new life with them or support their new life changing encounters. Dealing with a partner who is going through a midlife crisis is challenging but time passes and everything gets back to normal.

Family and friends are great support; although it’s not good to tell what your friend is going through, but talking to close relatives of your partner could help. At times they could know how to handle him or her psychologically.

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