‘Shem’s Idle Notes’ : Ways to get rejected fast!

While single women may have a list of qualities their mysterious “Mr. Right” should have, they give every guy that approaches the benefit of doubt. But it’s not so hard to blow your chances, just do anything on this list and see how fast she scatters from you!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

While single women may have a list of qualities their mysterious "Mr. Right” should have, they give every guy that approaches the benefit of doubt. But it’s not so hard to blow your chances, just do anything on this list and see how fast she scatters from you!

No.10 Forget how to be a man

Just forget to be a real man. Don’t be competitive, abandon your traits of strength and dominance, forget all about how to play rough games, and to rule your territory. In other words, behave like a girl-man when you are in the presence of a woman.  It’s not sexy, it’s not attractive and single women hate it.

No.9 Ignore the signs

Within a short time after starting to talk to a woman, she will let you know if she wants to continue talking to you. She’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way, or she won’t.  She’ll keep eye contact if she’s interested. She may touch you casually. She’ll smile with her eyes, not just her mouth. She will actually get nervous if she likes you. Watch out for these signs.

No.8 Use "weak” gestures, voice tone and body language

You use those weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures, comments, and mannerisms. This tells the woman; "I’m insecure and trying to be extra nice to compensate for it.”  90% of all men alive today instantly get rejected by women because of their "weak” posture, gestures, eye contact, and voice tone. In other words, they’re just begging to be rejected.

No.7 Come off like a creep

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work out for you. you don’t need to act all mach or suave, but you if you start talking to a woman and your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, you look all sweaty and nervous, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re just not going to get a favorable response.

No.6  Don’t know when to quit

If you approach a woman, and her immediate response isn’t welcoming, take the hint and move on. Don’t keep pushing it by saying things like "Come on, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun.” This becomes begging, and it’s also lame and stupid. Do try out your luck, but if you get "uninterested” signals, move on.

No.5 Say stupid things

There are uncountable stupid things you can do or say to kill attraction before it even happens. Using "pick up” lines writes you off as a nerd. Following a girl around with saying anything makes you look like a stalker.  Some guys just get all tongue-tied and don’t say anything at all. These are things that are going to kill every little you chance you have.

No.4 Ignore how attraction really works

Attraction is a silent automatic emotional and physical response. You can’t convince a woman to feel attracted to you with logic, gifts and niceness. Simply put, if the attraction doesn’t happen, there is little chance of you "forcing” it to happen.  Move on. 

No.3 Be boring

No one likes being around a boring person.  No amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, or other displays will ever compensate for being boring. An attractive single woman wants a guy who lights up her whole day. She wants mystery, she wants to laugh, she wants a challenge and she wants sexual tension. So if you’re boring and predictable, you’re never going to have women wanting to be with you.


No.2 be a follower instead of a leader

Women like men who take the lead. The kind of man who is always looking for little signals from her to decide what to do next, or where to go comes off as being "weak”.  Silently, he is begging the woman to take the lead. This is death. A man who doesn’t lead, and even worse, tries to get a woman to lead, annoys the hell out of single women.

No.1 Come across as needy, clingy and insecure

When one person "clings” to another person "psychologically,” the person who is being clung to resents and rejects the needy, clingy, emotional parasite.  This "need” to stay as physically close to the woman you want, or asking a woman to tell you that you are nice, fun, interesting, is weak stuff. Women hate this stuff. Get a life man, show the woman that she while she might be the centre of your world, she doesn’t necessarily make it go round.

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