The exposure gap: Why we are more ordinary than we think
Friday, May 15, 2026
Youths consult one another while watching a video. Photo by Craish BAHIZI

Recently, I came across a speech by Barack Obama in which he said: "Do not let people tell you that you don’t belong.” At first, the words sounded like a familiar motivational phrase. Yet the more I reflected on them, the more I realized how deeply they challenge the silent assumptions many of us carry through life.

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For years, many of us quietly believed that certain spaces political, diplomatic, academic, or professional belonged to a different category of people. We look at leaders, executives, or global figures and unconsciously imagine that they are fundamentally different from us, as though confidence and authority were inherited qualities rather than human experiences developed over time.

But life has a way of dissolving such illusions.

The more one moves through different spaces, the more one realizes that beneath titles and prestige, human vulnerability remains strikingly familiar. We all grow tired. We all experience uncertainty. We all seek dignity, belonging, and meaning. The distance we imagine between ourselves and the people we admire is often far greater in our minds than it is in reality.

If our humanity is shared, then what truly separates people? More often than not, the answer is exposure.

Many environments appear intimidating simply because we have never entered them before. A diplomatic summit, a boardroom, or an international institution can seem reserved for a special class of people when viewed from a distance. Yet once we step inside, the mystery slowly disappears. What we often interpret as superiority is frequently just familiarity accumulated over time.

This matters because many of us carry invisible internal narratives shaped by where we come from. For someone raised in modest circumstances, the internal voice may whisper: "People like me are meant to observe, not to lead.” Another person standing at the edge of prestigious global institutions may quietly think: "My background is not refined enough for this world.”

And so, before the world has the opportunity to reject us, we quietly reject ourselves.

We hesitate before applying for opportunities. We remain silent when we should speak. We shrink ourselves to fit the size of our fear rather than the scale of our potential.

Yet something remarkable happens when people cross those invisible borders. The first encounter may feel overwhelming, but eventually the unfamiliar becomes familiar. Confidence emerges not from magic, but from repetition. Competence grows through discipline. Courage is often nothing more glamorous than the decision to continue despite discomfort.

Recognizing this does not diminish excellence. Discipline, resilience, and preparation still matter profoundly. But excellence should never be confused with superior human worth. The people we admire are not another species of human beings. More often than not, they are simply people who remained in the room long enough for fear of losing its authority over them.

Human potential is often hidden beneath unnecessary intimidation. We spend years believing certain doors are permanently closed, when in reality many simply require us to knock.

No one is born entitled to greatness. But no one should automatically disqualify themselves from growth, ambition, or leadership either. As Obama’s words remind us, we should not merely seek involvement; we should earn our place at the table and dare to believe we belong there.

The writer is an international relations and diplomacy enthusiast.