I’m sure we all know a woman who works extra hard at making a relationship work. (But are relationships meant to be hard work, really?) These women’s lives are centred on giving excuses for the men in their lives: “Oh, he has a crazy schedule and couldn’t call me...”
I’m sure we all know a woman who works extra hard at making a relationship work. (But are relationships meant to be hard work, really?) These women’s lives are centred on giving excuses for the men in their lives: "Oh, he has a crazy schedule and couldn’t call me...”
There is a wrong perception about relationships especially with ladies. Being a man I bring views from the man’s side about relationships.
1. Lesson one: Ladies’ men know how to use the telephone and if he’s not calling you, clearly, you are not on his priority list! Unless he is in the middle of surgery or is being inaugurated, then busy is just a polite word for ‘not interested’. It is a chilling fact but this can save a lot of women the heartache of wasting their lives waiting by the phone.
2. Lesson two: Mothering him only worsens the situation; you cannot change a man unless he is in diapers! Most men do not want to hurt women by telling them that it cannot work; they would rather the woman figures it out.
A man’s actions speak louder than his words; he will either stop picking up your calls, or keep you waiting for hours on end.
3. Lesson three: Men don’t need you to keep running after them. If he’s interested, he knows how and where to get you.
Most irritating must be reading between the lines. When a man gives you a word, don’t make a paragraph out of it; learn to be less suspicious and take things at face value.
Men would rather not compliment women or ask them out for lunch since it will be misconstrued to mean something else. Women assume they are already in a relationship simply because a guy behaves like a gentleman to them.
The next thing, all her girlfriends know about her new catch; and the woman still wonders why the supposed catch has disappeared.
4. Lesson four: Men can smell desperation a mile away: There are those women who will keep calling at every opportunity. They will go through the man’s phone, insist on knowing his every move and are not only obsessed but are possessive too.
Woe unto the man should he land a motivational book reader who believes that everything can work out. They will cling like white to rice.