Having a crush on your co-worker

Yes. She/he is your co-worker, but the person is so gorgeous that you can’t stop gazing, or thinking about her/him. The crush you have on this person is really driving you nuts. When you’re around this person, you feel totally alive, completely engaged and incredibly connected to them.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009
LILLIAN NAKAYIMA

Yes. She/he is your co-worker, but the person is so gorgeous that you can’t stop gazing, or thinking about her/him.

The crush you have on this person is really driving you nuts. When you’re around this person, you feel totally alive, completely engaged and incredibly connected to them.

Whenever she/he passes by, you get heartbeats, and yet when you see them chatting, or going out with another person, you become jealous.

However, though you have a burning desire for a date, you are dead scared of even suggesting anything because you are workmates and ethically its questionable.

Work relationships make even the most decorated employee too shy to confess that they have a crush. Focusing on career doesn’t provide enough time soulmate searching. Hefty schedules have left many lifetime celibates just because they could never hook up with workmates.

Many people have opted to keep their feelings  to themselves for fear of dealing with the effects a work relationship gone bad.  Work relationships have been a disappointment to thousands.

How to make it work at work:

Character counts a lot. Considering that most of your time is spent at work, excelling at your work,  will not only win you a promotion, it might also get you a partner.
Reserved, honest, caring and jolly people often get whichever spouse they want.

Workmates are more like schoolmates or peers. They know each others’ weaknesses.

This makes them more judgmental. But, if you have a thing for a workmate, overlook the weaknesses. Pretend they are total strangers you are dying to meet and know more. And when you talk, leave work out of it.

Be warry of any rumour until there is proof. There is always work gossip which is not necessarily true. Once you decide to commit, demonstrate maturity, you are not expected to behave like before.

Hugging and flirtting with every workmate will only stirr up jealousy.

Keep your relationship as discreet as you can. An exposed work relationship is a as good as none. If you concentrate on updating workmates on any new developments the relationship will end up office talk.

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