To the generation of today, the thought to all young girls and boys is to always think twice. Free things are the most expensive ones. Today they are sweeter than honey, so caring. The angle so to say is having whatever young girls and boys would long for.

Think of a person owning a house in Gacuriro or Nyarutarama, a pajero and so outgoing, and does not complicate life. Expensive shoes, classic, fashionable and stylish fittings, cash for the saloon, and pocket money for other expenses.

There is no need to stress oneself boarding public buses so called twegerane’ because means of transport is not a problem. Whenever needed to go somewhere just call and within a minute one is already at the venue.

Talk about outings, each day is scheduled, that is Monday at Chez Lando for super, Tuesday go to Serena, Wednesday miss beauty is busy she has an exam so Mr Rukundo have to go home in time to meet his wife or else go for sauna and massage. Then as weekend is approaching, cannot miss to go to Mille Collines to enjoy karaoke.

"Sugar daddy’ love and care lasts for a short time,"says Joy Ingabire. She continues by saying that she used to go out with an old rich man and that in the early days of the relationship everything went on well.

However, after having sex with him, she realized his true colours. He stopped catering for her needs and cut off the communication.

"Thereafter, he told me how busy he is just to let me know that his mission of using me is accomplished and he does not have time for me anymore.”

Sugar daddies and mummies do move from one person to another and sometimes this just spreads disease. This most times destroys the lives of the gullible young people.

The doctrines of our ancestors contain relevant information on how women used to respect their bodies. Is it because of moderation in the nation that negative impacts are developing? No.

There are percentages of women today that have gone astray in having affairs with young boys simply because they want to satisfy their unsatisfied desires.

Musafiri, 20, was dated by a forty three year old divorced lady with three children. It all started when the old lady offered him a job as her driver.

"Whenever we could come back home late, the old lady would request me to sleep at her home,"  says Musafiri.

"At first it was not easy for me (to accept sleeping at her place) but later I was taken up by her concern since she really treated me with a lot of care. One day she told me that she had a trip to Gisenyi over the weekend. So we went there. I never thought anything strange would happen because she had not told me anything concerning love and again she looked and behaved in a respectable manner.”

Musafiri thought that the lady had booked two separate rooms. He had made this assumption because whenever he slept over at her home he used to sleep in the visitors’ room.

He admits that he used to enjoy her company very much because used to give him free money at times. He also said that the thought of sleeping with his kind lady boss had never crossed his mind since she was way older than him.

"I had so much respect for her. I was shocked to find that she only booked a single room. That day I slept on the same bed with her. Because of the respect I had for her I even failed to resist sharing a bed with her,” Musafiri said. He added that while in bed, the old lady came onto him.

"She did it softly, and then I also gained interest and enjoyed her touches then ended up having sex with her.”

Unfortunately for Musafiri, after what he thought was fun turned sour after taking an HIV test which proved his worst revelation, he was HIV positive.

Ingabire and Musafiri are just two living life examples. However, there probably are many more out there involved in cross generational sex. The young generation should be made aware of their values.

Life is not worth material possessions. Be wise and say No to any person who wants to take advantage of your precious life.

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