My daughter is 30 years old and has a nine year old son. The father of the boy is only getting acquainted with him as he did not know he was a father. She had the baby when she was very young, the guy was away and I have never really understood why she never found a way to tell him.
My daughter is 30 years old and has a nine year old son. The father of the boy is only getting acquainted with him as he did not know he was a father. She had the baby when she was very young, the guy was away and I have never really understood why she never found a way to tell him.
He seems like a pretty decent guy and perhaps it’s my imagination but I feel like he has feelings for her.
However, my daughter has been chatting with some guy in Canada on the internet and is now going on holiday with the boy and hasn’t said when she’ll back. I told her it is not right as she barely even knows this guy and asked her to stay and try to work it out with the father of her child but she won’t listen.
She says she has sole custody of the kid and can do what she wants but this is huge mistake and I am powerless to stop her. I don’t know what to do.
Ruth
Your feedback: Readers advise Ruth
Long distance is not a problem
Bruno Kwizera
Distance doesn’t really matter. The connection they have is what matters the most. I have seen people that meet online and get married. It shouldn’t be a problem. Stephen Bruno Kwizera
She should think about her daughter
Stella Komugisha
Your daughter should think of her child first. Would she want her daughter to have two men in her life when her real father is actually around? I don’t think so. She should think before acting. Stella Komugisha
Will her new man love her child?
She should think about how the new man will love her daughter and how he will deal with her baby daddy’s presence. Otherwise she will be miserable if it doesn’t work out. Kristine Diomande
Let her be happy with the guy she wants
Monia Mbonimpa
Just because her baby daddy is nice doesn’t mean she should go with him, maybe they don’t connect and that other guy makes her happy. Let her go with her happiness and this other guy will also find his. Each one has someone that is meant for them so let it be. Monia Mbonimpa
Let her be
I am guessing your daughter has reasons as to why she didn’t say a word to her daughter’s father. Maybe it’s because he didn’t care and she has found someone that makes her happy now. It’s her time to be happy with someone she wants so don’t get in the way. Collins Mulenzi
Give her time
Sekyaya Denis
She is still young. She is having fun. One time she will settle and know what is right for her. Give her sometime. Denis Sekyaya
Don’t be hard on her
We are way past the era of parents choosing for us whom to marry or date. Why are you being hard on the girl? Having a child doesn’t tie you to one person. Ty Rukundo
Is she crazy?
Having a child with one guy and going on vacation with another random chap is insane. She needs to settle down. Mike Habineza
She should stick to her baby daddy
She is going on vacation with a guy even before she is sure that it is an actual relationship? Why doesn’t she just save herself the trouble and marry her seemingly nice baby daddy? Trust Kwitonda
She needs to settle
Carine Holland
In the Rwandan culture we believe someone isn’t supposed to go ‘wondering’ around after she has had a child out of wedlock. She needs to settle. Carine Holland
She might regret it
Tim Fredrick
There is a saying that goes, "Better stay with the devil you know than the angel you don’t know” and I think it says enough. Okello Komagum