It’s been four months now since I broke up with my girlfriend. Recently I found out that she broke up with me because I wasn’t serious. I didn’t seem to have my priorities straight or show her the potential husband in me.

During these four months, I got a job and I am now more focused than I have ever been. I can honestly say I am a changed man. Should I go back for her because she’s really the only girl I will ever love?

Freddy, 27

Don’t be stuck in the past

No offense but you seem like the kind of guy who has a hard time leaving the past behind him. 

You seem like the kind of guy who is not too sure of what the future holds and so you hold on to your past.

If your previous girl left you, that should have been a sign that she wasn’t right for you, she wanted a ‘serious’ guy (whatever that means) and didn’t want to groom you to be one. Now that you have yourself figured out with a job and your priorities are set, you should cross her off your list and move on. 

There are plenty of decent girls who you can take on. Don’t be stuck in the past.

If the experience of her leaving you was not enough for you to learn on what kind of person she was, nothing will ever reveal her character as that did.

All the best as you leave the past behind.

Collins, 26, is married 

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Is she worth it?

I am glad that you have learned a lot from your past, usually circumstances make us rethink how we live our lives and we have to learn the hard way. Now getting to your question, I think you should give it time and see if anything plays out by itself. 

Sometimes things happen for a reason; if she isn’t meant to be yours then you will just be hurting yourself. If she really loved you, she wouldn’t have left you without trying to make an effort to change you into the person she wants you to be. 

You can never find a perfect partner but you can always turn them into a better person and be patient with them. Human beings change as they grow and patience with a partner is of the essence. 

If you do think she is worth it, go for it but if she didn’t take time for you, then there is someone out there that is waiting for you and will be more wonderful than she ever was.

Patrick, 22, is in stable relationship

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You are a fool!

Forgive me for starting this so rudely but you need a serious reality check. I don’t understand how this girl left you without so much as looking back to question  if she’d made the right choice then tells you later that it  ended because you weren’t serious. Couldn’t she mention that before?   It’s known that girls are after financial security and all but all she had to do was tell you to style up, look for a job and be a man!

However, she didn’t. She walked out on you without a thought in her head. Now that you have it all together, you want to go and impress her in an attmpt to win her back. How is that not foolish? Move on already. She probably wont even be impressed by your progress becuase she has surely moved on to bigger things by now. Sorry for the negative energy but wake up !

Martin, 29, is single