Society Debate: Is it right to dump someone through an SMS?

That is so immature Let us be fair and ask why anyone would dump their spouse through an SMS. I know relationships are hard and sometimes facing someone to tell them it’s over is devastating but what is more cowardly than ending a relationship through a text?

That is so immature

Let us be fair and ask why anyone would dump their spouse through an SMS. I know relationships are hard and sometimes facing someone to tell them it’s over is devastating but what is more cowardly than ending a relationship through a text?

Obviously the ‘dumpee’ doesn’t mean that much if they are not even given the chance to say goodbye face to face. It’s common courtesy; no degree is needed to figure that out. ‘Do unto others what you want them to do unto you.’ Nobody in their accurate mind would want to be dumped over the phone unless they had something to hide!

Even then, facing someone to tell them things aren’t working out is the least that can be done. I don’t understand how people can date or even be married for years only for one of them to be dumped through a text message, without even the solace of a phone call.

I’m assured that some people are not easily dumped and would rather cause chaos than go quietly, so if that’s the case, I suggest a few friends tag along in case all hell breaks loose. In the end, even though it was ugly, it was still done with some respect on the dumpers part and that is the most important thing.

Why spill out undying love for someone then act like a true coward when things hit the fan? Sit them down and explain to them why things can’t go on and why it is in both parties interests that the relationship be cut short. It’s called being mature.

Besides, most relationships begin with a face to face conversation which eventually turns into SMS chats so why not use the same civility that inaugurated the liaison to end it too? Nobody will even take a person who dumped a spouse through SMS seriously because it’s ludicrous and childish.

Legendary singer Phil Collins dumped his wife and mother of his kids for an airhostess he met aboard a plane by fax. How’s that for insensitive? I mean, it is bad enough being dumped, but can’t a little sensitivity be shown and have it done in a heartfelt way other than some silly SMS?

It is wrong, wrong, wrong! We might be human beings and are here to make mistakes but sending an SMS dumping someone is no mistake. It is a cold and pretty sadistic thing to do. For the love of God, have a heart. Yes, at the end the dumpee will still be dumped but it was how they were dumped that makes it hurt less.

Be strong and say it as it is. I heard a man once say he was afraid of telling his girlfriend face to face that it was over because she was suicidal and insisted that a text message would do lest she tried to get violent while he was still in her presence.

At that very moment, I pictured this girl receiving his text and (if she was really suicidal) tightening the rope around her neck, not because she had been dumped, but because she had been dumped that way. I’m not saying that is how it went but it’s a possibility.

Anyway, the point is it is very depressing getting dumped like that and only a truly malicious person can go ahead with it and not have the slightest penitence about the situation.

It’s a cruel world I guess, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Some things are out of our control while for others, we have the ability to do what is right especially by the people we claim to love or at least have loved.

rachelgaruka@yahoo.co.uk

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