It doesn’t matter
Eavesdropping might be a bad habit, but it came in handy for me last week, particularly for this subject. My sister and her campus friends were having lunch at home and soon they engaged in a very interesting topic.
As narrated by one of the girls, her relationship with her boyfriend faced one of those “between a rock and hard place” situations and after thinking about it for a while, she decided to end it.
So, she got her mobile phone, typed and sent a message to her boyfriend reading, “I’m really sori bt I don’t want 2 be yo galfrend anymo. Av moved on bt we can b pals!” She waited for his reply but it didn’t come in. She anxiously waited again for an hour, a day, weeks, but the boy never replied to his dumping SMS.
As I heartily laughed about it, one of the other girls angrily shouted, “That boy is not your worth! How can he do that to you? He doesn’t even have the courtesy to reply to something as serious as that!”
Suddenly the topic became hot with red faces and raised tempers, all against the boy’s manner of failing to reply to his dumping text.
Funny enough, although I hoped that one of the girls would at least blame their friend for her cowardice of sending a dumping text, none actually did. They all seemed to be on her side, some even promising to give the boy a piece of their mind if they met.
This drew me to one conclusion—there is no esteem in being dumped and the methods that someone chooses don’t really matter. Whether you choose to meet someone face-to-face, calling them on phone or sending a text, the results are still the same.
The common reasons that people give for calling off their relationships are usually that they don’t find them as attractive, interesting, or as compatible as they thought they were.
Logically, regardless of how much one party believes that they are already out of a relationship, they are technically still in it until they officially terminate it. Officially terminating relationships means that they must inform the other person.
You don’t just disappear or keep quiet and assume that your boy or girlfriend understands that you don’t like them anymore—that is a lame and selfish move.
To get over a relationship in the shortest time possible, dumping must be very efficient and timesaving. I don’t see anything better than a simple text. I don’t see any immorality or heartlessness about it.
As I can imagine, it probably didn’t cross my sisters’ and friends’ minds that the boy had moved on and didn’t see any reason to reply to the text.
If there is nothing noble in being dumped, then the methods should never matter. Face-to-face dumping or text dumping brings us to one conclusion; somebody is no longer wanted.
My advice is that, if you’re absolutely done with a relationship, send a well written text explaining your breakup and then just keep quiet and move on with a happy life.