Recently, I have heard different real stories of what’s happening in my friends’ lives, sudden deaths, critics, failures and addictions. It has really moved my heart that only giving hope and a simple advice would be. When you struggle with things in life you are often told to "Hold on."
Sometimes it just isn't possible. Sometimes it's just wrong. Sometimes we need to let go.
I can't hold on any more. I need desperately to let go of this mess and anxiety. I need to distance myself from things in the present and in particular things of the past.
That's probably the worst part, the toughest part. Letting go of things of the present is easier.
They are happening now. You can influence, control the outcome. You can wake up today and say, "I'm going to stop smoking!" and actually begin. You can stand in front of a mirror and see things that can be changed today. Your weight, the way you dress, your hairstyle and your attitude.
But letting go of the past...that's a challenge.
I carry with me way too many things of the past. I flash back in seconds to a memory I apparently can't let go of. At the same time it's a memory I can't do a thing about. It's done. It's over. I can't change it. I need to let go.
Perhaps you find yourself spending time thinking about the way things were. Maybe you are longing for the "good old days."
You're holding onto pleasant memories, moments that made you who you are today. That's fine. It's a part of the fabric of you.
Maybe you are holding on to things of the past that are not so pleasant. Things you did, said, had done to you and it is stealing away the precious time you have now. You are holding onto destructive things that you should let go of. You are not just holding on, you are holding yourself back.
Letting go of the rope would free your hands making them available to embrace someone, something more important. The fall won't kill you. It will heal you. Take time today to make a list. Use a single sheet of paper draw a line straight down the middle.
On top write "Hold onto" over one column and "Let go of" on top of the other column. Then, begin writing down all the things of your life that need to be dealt with. Use a pencil. Ink is too permanent. Life is written in pencil so that we can change our plans; rid ourselves of things we need not be concerned with.
Look at that list and make changes to it. Re-examine the list everyday until you feel comfortable with your choices. Things of the past should all be on the side marked "Let go of." Things of the present should be held onto unless they are out of your control and you have no influence over them. If you cannot change or influence it, then it is simply not worth worrying about. Let go.
Post this list somewhere that you will see it daily and as you go along add to, take away things as you see fit. The only real thing you should hold onto is your faith and the love you give and the love you get.
Many different people talk about letting go; even the bible emphasizes it. Take an example of Thessalonians 5:21 "Test everything. Hold on to the good."
"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss
"Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head." Ann Landers
"Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure."~Oprah Winfrey~
"Ask yourself this question: "Will this matter a year from now?" ~Richard Carlson PhD~
Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?