“Would you let this man be with your teenage daughter?’ read a statement on a billboard.
Below that statement is a picture of a man whose looks suggest that he could be in his late 50’s.
If told to take a quick guess of how many children he could have procreated, any number above five would fit perfectly. There is another inscription below the picture of the man.
“Then why are you with her?”reads a caption right beneath the picture of the man said to be dating a girl fit to be his daughter.
I happened to have travelled to one of the neighbouring countries while they were holding campaigns against cross-generational sex. That is when I came across this billboard that caught my attention.
By the time campaigns, radio and television adverts about old men dating young girls are all over, it shows how big a problem this is.
If you have been through University, resided in a hostel then you are no stranger to this issue.
Men old enough to be fathers of University students come all clad in Jeans, tour shorts, tight fitting shirts and night vision shades to visit their girlfriends.
Most of these men own posh cars (and love swinging their car keys), hold more than one phone and have just a snobbish look like they just landed from Venus.
One could say they are bloated with pride, conceited, trying to impress the girls, show status but in one word, these men are suffering from midlife crisis among other reasons that draw them to young girls.
Usually, they do things to make them feel younger. You will find them in the club with their young girlfriends dancing to Lady Gaga and Lil Wayne’s music.
Some have mastered the game and if its club, they know which dance strokes go along with which songs, save for a few exceptions that always seem like they are dancing to the next song. Others comfortably use youth slangs just so they can get along with the young girls.
Oscar Kimonyo, says that some of the men engaged in such relationships are in to suppress their sexual urge which the young can easily give.
“Some men can’t contain their sexual urge and the young girls are usually generous here, as long as you give them the fancy cell phones and load their purses with money,” says Kimonyo.
Kimonyo adds that sometimes the men miss the good old days when their wives were youthful. Since they can’t regain that, they seek solace from the young girls to get a feel of the past.
Harrison says some men are just afraid to face the fact that age has caught up with them.
“Letting go of the fun isn’t quite easy for men. Women easily adapt to these transitions and all they care about is mostly the children and welfare of the home,” says Harrison.
He says that it is however different for some men who will always feel the need to be pampered yet their wives have already lost interest. This usually leaves them with one option which is the young girls.
It’s natural for almost all men to admire a younger woman but the difference lies in how to deal with this.
Those that hold good values and moral fiber will always control this passion however strong it may be while others will not let anything stop them from getting that young girl.