Can men ever settle down?

Can a man be contented with just one woman? A woman may say, "Yes, he should be contented with just one woman". Some men will say, "Yes, as long as she gives me what I need, and she doesn’t give me reason to look elsewhere". And some men still will say, "No, it is not possible for a man to be contented with just one woman".

Can a man be contented with just one woman? A woman may say, "Yes, he should be contented with just one woman". Some men will say, "Yes, as long as she gives me what I need, and she doesn’t give me reason to look elsewhere". And some men still will say, "No, it is not possible for a man to be contented with just one woman".

Clearly, this question has no fixed answers. And since we are all different, the answers will vary from person to person. But a fair percentage of men would find it really hard to settle down and be contented with one woman.

And it beats the women's understanding, trying to figure out what on earth the man is still looking for, yet he already has everything he needs!

Ladies, let me give you an insight into the mind of a man who thinks he can’t be contented with just one woman. Such a man believes that his needs are too wide, too diverse for just one woman to satisfy them. That for example, if he has a woman who is beautiful, a real beauty queen, there are chances that she might not be very intelligent. So, he needs to get someone to talk to as well, someone with brains.

The question that beats most women is this; why would a man who has a woman who seems to be perfect go astray?

The answer could be this; there is no perfect woman. Even if she is a master at pretence, with time he will be able to see through her act, and see the flaws in her. Then you ask again; "But why would he stray with a woman who is not even half as good as his wife/girlfriend?" and the answer is; "because his wife already gives him the beauty, the social status-quo. What he gets from this other woman is more primal, more basic in nature, the idea of adventure and risk!

And there is also the reason that the man seeks variety. Like someone so aptly put it; men like to have another option. To most men, the idea of being with one person for the rest of their lives is very frightening; no wonder most men take their time to pop that big question!

They know that once they have committed to you, it is akin to going to jail. This is the point where the ladies will say, "That is immature thinking". But I can assure you, it has nothing to do with maturity. That’s the way most men are. Men like to have options, the more options the better.

Actually, if asked to be frank, most men would rather not commit at all. It is usually the ladies who start talking about "settling down", and since that is the "respectable" thing to do, the man usually has to go along and commit.

And of course the men know that being in a committed relationship has its advantages, considering that in most societies a man is not considered a man until he is married.

And also, research has shown that married men live longer than single men—I have totally no idea how life span and being married connect!

So to answer your question, "can a man be contented with just one woman", the answer is "it takes a really disciplined man to pull it off". And since we cannot read minds, we can’t even be certain that even the “really disciplined" men don’t have doubts, second thoughts, their own internal struggles!

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