In this day and age, the stakes of falling in love and finding a soul mate are so opposed to ancient traditions. It’s incredibly tricky to have it all, yet bachelors and bachelorettes out there will dump a prospective partner on their first date, simply because they lack one basic quality—say they are; too short or too tall, fluent in a language or not, educated or not et cetera.
However, searching and dating was so simple in the past. Let’s take a trip, down memory lane to 1975.
Joy Nyirabugingo was a single primary school teacher in 1975. Her considerations for a husband were only two—he had to be educated and from a good family background.
Thirty-six years later, Nyirabugingo’s marriage has worked out perfectly. However, she says, the only problem at hand is her choosy daughters who have long lists bearing what their husbands should be/look like.
“One of my daughters is 30 years while the other is 32 years. At this age, they still haven’t found men, suitable for their hand in marriage,” says Nyirabugingo, a retired teacher now.
Today, late marriages or no marriages are rampant; people simply fail to get the perfect match. But wait, can anyone be that perfect? My notes show me that only Jesus Christ and GOD are the perfect beings earth will ever know. The rest is imperfection.
Three magical qualities
It’s the dream of every woman, to wear that lovely wedding gown. The criteria of getting the best mate are as simple as ABC as explained below.
1.Is he in love
“Is he in love with you? That’s the basic,” says Ritah Uwera, who is 26 years and happily married.
Ticking against endless qualities perceived in your mind will not make your search better, if he doesn’t feel the same way.
If you are sure he loves you and wants to settle down with you? Then focus on reality.
2.Can you stand his weaknesses?
What do you hate about him anyway? If they are things that you can stand, he is the right person for you. But still if you can learn to tolerate his weaknesses, then he is the right person for you.
3.What makes you love him?
Choose three things that you love about him. This should be both in his appearance and character. Is it his sense of humour or the way he takes control? Perhaps it’s his smile.
If every single lady out there would give this a try, then the looming issue of delayed marriages and desperate crazy women would surely be addressed.