TRUE MAN: What if she refuses to call it quits?

Alright, let’s be honest; not every relationship works out. Statistically only about 20 percent of relationships have the chance to culminate into a mutually fruitful loving relationship for both partners. The rest of the relationships have a 30 percent chance of working out, and these chances are further reduced by other factors like age. So, most relationships are bound to fail and break up.
Break-ups are never easy.
Break-ups are never easy.

Alright, let’s be honest; not every relationship works out. Statistically only about 20 percent of relationships have the chance to culminate into a mutually fruitful loving relationship for both partners.

The rest of the relationships have a 30 percent chance of working out, and these chances are further reduced by other factors like age. So, most relationships are bound to fail and break up.

This brings us to this question; what if she refuses to break up with you.Every girl that you see out there has a unique personality. First impression, most of them seem to be the same, some are actually surprisingly great. 

So you consider yourself a lucky guy for having landed yourself a great catch. But then, small cracks in her smooth surface start showing, and before you know it, the relationship has reached its breaking point and there is nothing you can do about it.

Breaking up is never easy because it is an admission that you have failed. The part when you promised “to love her forever, through thick and thin” fades away. And worse still, she just might not be ready to break up.

She might not even understand why you want to end the relationship. Your claims of “this isn’t working out” might not make any sense.

If a guy is initiating the breakup, chances are that he will consider it her fault, her mistakes. You will have become convinced that she isn’t the right woman for you.

Most likely, she might not understand your reasons and think you are delusional so they stick around, “till he gets his senses back”. So she sticks around.

This is a pretty tight situation. It gets even worse if you are interested in another girl. Chances of your new relationship working out, when your old girlfriend still thinks you are still in a relationship with her are very slim.

I have seen several people in this situation and I have learnt that there is no one-solution formula that works.

You only have to pray and hope that your ex-girlfriend will get the point, and move on. Also hope that she isn’t crazy enough to go gaga on any woman you might date.

Breaking free will require that you become assertive and make up your mind about moving on. Sometimes, a break up is better than staying in a joyless destructive relationship.

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