All roses have thorns

Marrying her longtime partner was a dream come true for Esther. She thought she knew her partner pretty well. The couple was indivisible during the three years of dating while at campus. They crowned their long faithful relationship with a wedding. After saying the vows before the public and God, their love life turned into a disaster! “Two months after marrying him, I learnt about his relationship with another woman,” Esther laments. A newly wed couple divorced recently two and a half months after their wedding. The more bridal ceremonies increase, the more divorces we get. It’s quite ironical that couples that have been role models of love turn out worst enemies. Early divorces are facts and kids are left in a dilemma about which parent is right. Abrupt breakups are a misconception that marriage is the beginning of untold happiness. This explains why too much effort is put in quoteship other than marriage itself. Much as marriage is a seventh heaven, it also bears untold suffering which can only be solved by ready people. People who went in after deciding. Though it’s a priest’s role to recite different awful incidents that can occur in marriage, many couples reluctantly repeat after the priest without contemplating on the words. “Just like life, marriage is a problem solving process,” says Yvette Mukeshimana a church councilor. She adds that fiancées ought to hope for the worst and the way to redeem their marriages incase they went astray. This will help in overcoming any problem without considering quitting. Today, some churches never join couples in marriage if they have never had any disagreements. “Having solved arguments means being ready and mature for marriage,” says Pastor Emmanuel Mugisha. Marriage isn’t a bed of roses like all expect. Once one is married, they get to know about their partners’ inner secrets and character. For some reason, dating couples don’t tell all about themselves, only to discover one’s true colour after you are married. Discovering pathetic with a beloved one is reason enough to quit. And as often said character is like pregnancy, no one can ever hide their true selves forever. The primary stages of marriage consist of understanding more about one’s partner. “Infact most marriages breakup during the first three years,” says Mukeshimana. Though marriage doesn’t come on a silver platter, a little more effort can fill an empty marriage and make things work out. According to Mukeshimana, the best way to solve marriage problems is hanging on. “No human being is perfect; running away is the worst option. You may run to worse people,” she says Quitters never win and winners never quit. For a failing marriage, thinking positively and replacing evil with good will make it work. Long-lasting marriages are based on identifying the challenges and instantly solving them. And if you underestimate your marriage of course you’ll lose it. Ends

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All roses have thorns