You are introduced to someone and, as part of the greeting you extend your right arm to shake hands with him. In contrast to your firm grip, you get a limp cold lifeless hand, and that’s what you have to settle for as a "handshake".
For something so easily dismissible, the handshake actually holds a lot of telltale signs about the shaker. It tells a lot on how people interpret what kind of man you are. There is something significant and telling about the way another man shakes your hand.
So what does a handshake say about you? Everything! Your handshake speaks of strong confidence or of an absolute lack of it, which is an underlying insecurity in your personality. My father taught me the power behind a handshake because he realized its importance when dealing with people. Do you notice how great leaders shake with authority -- power and command amplified through their right hand? But what kind of authority is in your handshake?
The weak handshake
A weak handshake screams "frail", "timid” and “insecure". The firmness of your grasp helps someone determine how sure about yourself you are. During an interview, the employer who finds your handshake weak will not find you as reassuring as the interviewee with a firm strong handshake. Considering the investment employers make in someone, it is obvious that none would want “weak” employees.
The bone-crushing grip
Too much power in your handshake isn’t the answer either, and this bone-crushing grip is as bad as the limp handshake, in some cases even worse. When someone shakes too hard or for too long, it suggests "trying to make up for something that is lacking". This is called overcompensation. It makes some wonder what the death grip is compensating for. Most of the time, you leave with a negative impression about that guy who just nearly broke your hand. The word "bully" won’t be far from your mind.
Shaking hands with her
Shaking hands with a woman is even more complicated than with a man, because in addition to women being delicate, they read EVERYTHING into the way a man shakes. There is a sense of confidence, security and trustworthiness in a firm and balanced handshake. The women in your life will take note of this. Radiate that confidence when you shake her hand. Don’t be surprised if she quickly loses interest in your just because you have a weak handshake.
With some practice and careful attention, you can perfect how to shake hands so that you pass on the correct message. Even the act of extending your hand first implies confidence. Hold your posture upright, stride right up to the person, and stick out your right arm straight to shake hands with confidence. This definitely puts you in a different class from that guy who thinks a handshake is all about "touching" hands.