Wouldn’t take a risk!
Talking about marriage? It’s a lifetime commitment, for better or worse like it is usually recited on that day when you walk down the aisle with your chosen one without knowing what lies ahead.
A whole line of juniors, one or two doesn’t matter, I would not go in for someone with children, not because I do not love them but somehow there will be no peace in the home,
In such marriages there is always jealousy created amongst the children since they don’t share the same parents hence they fight to attain equal love from the parents, this then raises issues such as hatred.
Sometimes a woman will use this chance of having children to ‘milk’ their father, claiming need for children’s property, fees, medical expenses etc. This becomes a blessing in disguise.
The moment your accept to marry a man with children from his previous relationships or marriage, at some point he brings you child claiming he didn’t know about them since it had been a one night stand but he had given up on playing the unfaithful part.
As for a marriage where the woman brings children from the previous relationships or marriage is quite disturbing since in most cases the in-laws never treat his wife with respect.
Children out of wedlock become stumbling blocks of happiness in a marriage especially when the in-laws have it in mind that their sister-in-law has children with another man, being in this dilemma is too disturbing, you are bound be sad in your marriage life .
The situation worsens if one of the couple is barren in most cases it’s the woman who faces the wrath of family members, if she gets married to a man who has children in the earlier relationship. She will be insulted by the in-laws, the children when they get older, or even former wife hence causing her grief all through her marriage.
Thinking about the closeness with an ex; especially if they have children which acts as a strong bond strengthened most especially every time one looks at them and remembers either the father or mother - is inevitable.
When you look at different cases of domestic violence, you find that most of the cases are as a result of getting into these kinds of marriage setups, there is a lot of child labor, especially for step-children who are punished for the slightest mistake.
In conclusion, the mere thought of getting into a marriage where there are children already puts me off. I wouldn’t risk losing the “happy ever after” dream for this kind of marriage.