I’m more than certain when God told Adam that after eating the forbidden fruit, he’s punishment was that he would sweat and tire for the good of his family, He meant it. Or at least something like that.
Just because it was said millions of years ago does not mean it shouldn’t be applied now. That was meant for any man who has ever walked the planet.
Some men are funny, when it comes to women trying to do something in a male dominated profession, they think she is misplaced and should stick to being a woman. Whatever that means!
Then when it comes to paying expenses, we should be independent and not rely on men for everything. I don’t get it. They are so quick to assure you of how superior they are so please, I need you to show me this superiority in every aspect of life. All men regardless of whether you have a family or not are expected to look after not only his woman but others as well. And that includes the single fellows out on a date.
Why would you ask a girl out on a date and then when the bill comes you expect her to pay half of it? You initiated the date so obviously you knew that you would take care of it.
It is called being a gentleman. Yes I know that these days things are done differently and that women are much more independent.
But the old way has always been the right way. God created you first, so when the bill comes, be consistent and grab it first.
Like opening car doors or pulling out a chair for a lady. Simple gestures but it speaks volumes. If you have picked up the nerve to ask me out on a date, I suggest you go back, pick up another nerve and pay the bill!
If you are so into ‘let’s split the bill’ thing, when you call up a girl, tell her before hand of the arrangement. But do not call me up saying, ’Hi, I would love to take you out tonight.’ And then start blinking in my direction when the bill is brought. Not cool.
And that doesn’t mean that I don’t have money on me. What I have is my money, and as far as am concerned it’s your money that we are dealing with. So don’t go telling your buddies how you were out with a broke chick.
Because I can assure that after we part ways, you’ll be shocked to find me at the next happening spot. And not with some other guy on my arm please.
Real men do not let a girl pay for dinner. It’s just not done. If you can’t afford to pay for it then don’t suggest it. If I am the one who has suggested an outing, you can be rest assured that I will be footing the bills or at least mine!
And please don’t get me used to the luxury of just enjoying whatever is put before me without worrying about paying for it. Then after a couple of dates start complaining how I don’t chip in.
You gave me the impression you had it, that it was all sorted at the time. How was I supposed to know you wanted help? I’m not a mind reader! All I’m saying is it’s best to be yourself and do things you can handle.
Use the right approach. Do not say ‘I want to take you out’ when what you mean is ‘Let’s hang out’. The latter tells a girl that we shall be together but it’s one man for himself!
So unless I choose to chip in on the bill, you have no right to ask me to. That is rude.
And do not use the ‘I don’t have change’ line so that you can take my money very well knowing you won’t give it back!
I am not telling you to pay rent, school, salon and all these other things for a woman. If it is dinner, as a guy it is you’re sworn duty to pick up that cheque especially if you suggested it.
Next time be clear on how you like things done. You can ask me for assistance if there’s a hole in your wallet but don’t suffer in silence because you had to top up with your transport home.