I have no issues with people who want to stay celibate for the rest of their lives. People in the world have their reasons for being who they want to be. Life is now more personal unlike in the earlier communal days.
In today’s society, people can find sex on the side of a street or have babies outside wedlock and are not excommunicated from society or thrown down a hill by the clan chief.
Absurdly, some people have chosen to remain bachelors, not just because it’s a better way of life, but because they ridicule the whole structure of marriage. They choose to date different people without committing to a single person. To them, commitment is a no-go area, a place for the imprisoned and trapped people.
Unfortunately, little do they realize that by avoiding marriage, they are missing the very best and most fulfilling way of life. Marriage brings mutual support and security in one’s life that bachelorhood can only dream of.
Having someone to understand you or support you when you’re sick is priceless and precious.
On the other hand, bachelorhood buries one with loneliness—a feeling that they are alone in the world and no one else understands them fully.
Through marriage, we find social and community acceptance. You can’t get this acceptance in a society like Rwanda or Africa if you’re bent on staying a bachelor for the rest of your life. In our society, you will be termed as a boy or girl regardless of your age, if you are unmarried.
As a matter of fact, you can’t take on big leadership roles if you don’t have a family simply because you have no real experience in leading. The fact is, people in society don’t put much trust in unmarried people.
Furthermore, getting married offers partners with financial benefits that bachelors don’t realize. In most marriages, partners combine money to purchase assets that would have otherwise been harder to purchase single handedly. This added advantage of combining resources makes life easier and affordable.
Bachelors assume that it’s cheaper to stay single, but when you evaluate all the money they spend hanging out, or on expensive dates, you will find that bachelorhood is almost twice as expensive as married life.
Most importantly, a marriage offers the opportunity to raise children as a team. Having children and raising them as two parents is one of life’s biggest achievements.
Some people say that they’d rather have children out of wedlock and raise them as single parents. However, if you asked most single parents, they complain about how hard it is to take care of a baby and work at the same time. This problem can be solved by letting their children grow up in a complete family.
In conclusion, bachelorhood as St Paul states, is a calling from the Almighty, while marriage is a blessing from the Almighty.