INSIGHTS : Lift the lid off his true colors

You don’t have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes. A man’s actions-especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he’s not going out of his way to try to impress you or doesn’t realize you’re watching can speak volumes about his character and personality traits.

You don’t have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes.

A man’s actions-especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he’s not going out of his way to try to impress you or doesn’t realize you’re watching can speak volumes about his character and personality traits.

Cash flow

A guy who likes to flash his status may be ambitious and confident. He’ll reach his financial goals. If he doesn’t have a snake in his pocket, (most guys fear digging into their pockets you can think they fear being bitten by a snake), he’s might be self-sufficient and independent, which might make him a difficult dude to corner.

And if his wallet is ever thin& dry (never with money) or he keeps saying stuff like ‘I don’t have loose money’, this is one guy who’s got super-glue hands and dependent on others so you better move slow with him.

His Fave Sport:

“Solo sportsmen, like runners and swimmers, savour their independence and relish spending a lot of time alone.

Men who are fans of mainstream team sports, like football, basketball, and baseball, tend to be competitive on the field and in all aspects of their life and they like to hang with their entourage.

As for the guy who’s just not into sports at all, he’s an independent thinker, usually on the sensitive side.”

How Long He’s Been Hanging With His Friends
A guy who has been friends with the same people since he was a child can certainly claim for loyalty as one of his strong suits. But you had better not immediately like what you see, because he’s probably not great with changes and be patient, because it will take a while for you to win his trust.

His Bad Habits

Gambling men are risk-takers, which can make them a lot of fun but they may be over-the-top. It makes it difficult for them to face reality. Hard-core smokers tend to be anxious so it can be hard to pin them down for couple-time. And if he’s a boozer, he could be hiding his insecurity behind his booze.

Styles of Communication

When your date opts to email or text you rather than call he could be a hard nut to crack. The fact that he chooses a communication method that allows him to edit what he says signals that he might not want to show his true self and he tries to crave your non-stop attention and needs that instant assurance that you’re there for him.

And the phone fan might be a little old-fashioned and likes to do things by the book but he’s not usually afraid of intimacy.

The Clothes You Wear That He Likes

If your favourite T-shirt and jeans or a cute little dress do more for him than your silky sexy black dress, you might be dating an earthy, laid-back guy who likes equally laid-back, low-maintenance chics.

A man who’s wowed by a woman who likes to get dolled up in high-end designer clothes and heels places a high priority on prestige.

He’ll probably make a lot of money, but it also might play too important a role in his life. And a guy who wants an Electra-sensual girl on his arm is looking for an ego boost. He places a lot of value on being admired and envied.

Traffic jam show

If he doesn’t wave or warn other drivers of the traffic police ahead but glares and shouts, and sometimes shows the middle finger at other drivers, it’s pretty clear that he has a problem with aggression.

While a forceful personality might take him far in the workplace, it could be difficult to deal with this guy in a relationship coz he might be argumentative. If he’s able to be calm when stuck, he’s likely to have more self-control.

In The Restaurant:

A meat-and-potatoes-type guy is usually steady and dependable, but he might also be a little unadventurous. If your date goes for exotic dishes, you’re with someone who makes spontaneity a priority and could easily get bored with the status quo meaning a more adventurous person.

Neat Freak or Messy Man:

A guy who puts his dirty socks in the hamper is one thing; a guy who colour-codes them in his drawer is something else. This man is way too fastidious to have fun and he’ll expect you to be just as neat. A mildly messy man is looser and more open-minded. But if the inside of his shower has never seen a scrub brush, he may be immature or just plain lazy.

TV Shows:

Take note if he parks himself in front of TV watching one comedy show after another. Here’s a guy who uses humour to defuse stress.

This can be a good thing, because he won’t hold a grudge against you or lose his cool but it also might be hard to get into a serious conversation with him, which can be frustrating.

The more you try to discuss something important, the more evasive he will become. A guy who’s fascinated by CSI-type shows, on the other hand, is analytical and thoughtful.

He prides himself on his problem-solving abilities and will be there for you when you need support.

Eye Contact:

A man who doesn’t make eye contact during conversation may not be trustworthy; meanwhile, if his eyes bore into yours as he’s talking, he might be trying to intimidate you. But a smouldering gaze, guess you know what that look’s like, means he’s immensely fond of you.

When he talks

Fast talkers get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they don’t pay attention to their audience.

Slow talkers typically play it safe, the way they deliberate every word before it comes out of their mouth is indicative of how they approach life: They look before they leap.

So although you shouldn’t expect a lot of surprises, at least you’ll know he means what he says.

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