If your girlfriend/ boyfriend broke up with you, and wanted to remain friends, would you accept their friendship or would you find that uncomfortable?
“Well, it all depends on why we broke up. If she cheated or something like that then, no I wouldn’t be her friend, but I can probably greet her when we meet. However, if we broke up because we just didn’t connect on some levels, then yes I would still be friends with her”.
Godson Nkubito, businessman, runs Toyota spare parts.
“Depends on how long ago the break up was. If it was only a few days or weeks, then I wouldn’t, and I would try as much as possible to avoid seeing or hearing from her. But if it was years then it would be ok to be friends, because I wouldn’t be remembering the incident”.
Déogratias Tuyizere sells clothes in Remera, a suburb of Kigali city.
“Its inconveniencing at first but you get over it. I’ve always tried to be friends with my exs and it has worked for me. There is no need to become an enemy with a person you have ever loved and shared romantic moments”.
Diane Uwase, assistant manager at Keza High Style fashion boutique.
“We can stay friends with my ex, but I can’t continue giving him the care and love I used to give him before we broke up”.
Jacqueline Murekenzi, professional Salus dancer/teacher.
“They usually get in the way or they will sabotage the new relationship that you are in. There is a reason I can’t be friends with my exs”.
Emmanuel Hakiziman is a retailer.
“It’s very important to maintain friendship with your ex, especially if you shared great moments together. In such a situation, it’s hard to forget that person.
So I wouldn’t abandon her even if I’m engaged into another relationship. I would always be there for her whenever she needs me, and if necessary, I can connect her to another person to fulfill the gap I left in her life”.
Steven Mugabo, military man.
“I’m still friends with my exs. However, this doesn’t mean that there is anything else other than the casual friendship going on between us. I’m already a married, and they have to respect my marriage.
We greet each whenever we meet, and I can render my services whenever they need it, but nothing beyond that”.
John Kayumba is the owner of New Style Boutique, located in Giporoso.
“I don’t mind being friends with my ex. I have to stay in contact with him, so that in case things with my new boyfriend don’t work out, I can run back to him”.
Marie Claire Uwase, is a shop attendant at AGRIVET (a shop which agricultural products in Remera).
“It would depend on how we broke up. If it was scandalous, I can’t be his friend anymore, but if we split in a more normal manner, l can consider being his friend”.
Antoinette Rwigema works for Tigo.
“I’ve had it both ways. Some of my exes, we avoid each other like a virus. But the friendships that have grown from the others have been blessings and I cherish each of them more now than I did before. I suppose it depends on the break-up and the relationship you had with the ex prior to dating”.
Faustino Uwinfura, a young entrepreneur in Remera.