Time is one of the most important resources, yet one of the least valued. I always get embarrassed whenever I hear someone saying such and such a programme is on at such and such a time and people ask: “African time?” In other words, they are asking so that they know whether to come late. By ‘African’ time they are meaning being late by an hour or two. It’s sad that many of us do not respect time.
Well, if you and I want to achieve our goals, we must learn to value time. Every successful person, anywhere in the world, spends their time wisely. They make sure every minute is put into proper use. They have no time to waste and do not also waste other people’s time. They also always try to avoid people, things or situations that waste time, if one is not careful.
I want to emphasize this point – we need to avoid time-wasters. For example when you are concentrating at work and friends keep coming everyday and disrupting your work, what do you do? What about unnecessary phone calls that people make? Do you tolerate all of them? If you are a lady, how much time do you spend dressing up, working on your hair and applying make-up?
While others are wasting time before the screen, in unnecessary outings, or in useless arguments, others are busy making money. Do you really have to follow 3 soaps on TV to feel entertained? Must you watch all the leagues and tournaments in order to feel that you are enjoying soccer? Must you attend wedding meetings from Monday to Friday? Do you have to be in Church ‘praying’ from morning to evening to be close to God?
A winner not only values his/her own time as well as that of others. He/she does not waste other people’s time, just like he/she doesn’t want to waste his/hers. But there are people who seem to enjoy wasting other people’s time. It’s so annoying! Have you ever called someone for a meeting and he told you to call tomorrow, then the day after tomorrow, then next week, and the appointment forever remained in the future until you advised yourself to give up?
We need to learn this principle of valuing other people’s time, if we are to live in harmony with others. If you are not ready to do what someone is asking, politely say “No’ instead of making people waste their time making follow-up, with hope that they will get tired and give up on their own. It’s better to tell me you won’t attend to me and I get hurt than to waste my time and not help me, and get hurt more.
This same principle applies even to love relationships. For instance, if you are not ready to commit yourself, why waste someone’s precious time? I know of someone who has stayed with a man for 6 years, they have 2 kids, but she says she is not sure whether the man will marry her. Ha ha ha!