Dear Aunt Silvia,
I am a young single woman with one child whom I got from my previous
relationship. Recently, I met a man who is willing to marry me but insists
that I should take my daughter to her father before he commits himself to
marriage. He wants nothing to do with my daughter; even when he comes
home to visit me, he cannot even as look at my daughter. What do I do to
make this man love my daughter so that we can be one happy family when
we get married?
What is wrong with you exactly? What do you think you can do to this person to force him love your daughter? This is the kind of person that could defile your daughter or even kill her at any slight opportunity. What are you doing with this kind of man? I tell you, sometimes I don’t know what to do with my women folk like you – these are the tale tell signs that this man is not right for you. Where do you derive that courage from to befriend such a person? A person who wants nothing to do with your daughter today, you think he will be any kinder to you tomorrow? Young girl, smell the coffee and wake up!
This is a man whom you met when you already had gotten your daughter, what right does he have over your past? Show me which person who has no past, it’s only that some people’s pasts come with a baggage. Whatever has happened- happened and there is nothing he can do to change that, so why do you still encourage him to think that the situation can be changed? Your child is yours; he cannot take that from you. The fact that he found you living and taking care of your child solely does not mean that she is fatherless or you do not know where her father is or lives; so let him not remind you.
How desperate are you to get married? Can you stop behaving as if you will die if this man does not marry you? Okay, maybe I should console you that there are many fish in the sea, literary to mean that there are enough men for every woman on this earth. You only need to be patient; the right man for you will come your way at the right time. Remember that God’s timing is the best!
Jesus Christ! What is this thing with women? How do you agree to go and throw your baby to her irresponsible father, just because some person in trousers claims his love for you? If he is man enough to love you then he should be in the same position to love your daughter equally if not more. A person who has no heart to love a child is not worth to even live amongst people, if you ask me. If the two of you are planning to get married (God forbid), then let me remind him that this same girl he despises will be an elder sister to his children- how about that? Emilly, believe you me no man is worth the life of your daughter. He is not a good person. God is trying to communicate to you and you are refusing to hear His voice and see all the signs before you. My advice to you is to do away with this man- pronto!