Dear Aunt Silvia,
I am a young single man engaged and ready to be married before end of this year. My fiancée, who happens to be older than me by five years, shocked me when she told me that she does not want to have children. I am just wondering why we should be together in the first place. Is something wrong with her? How should I deal with this issue?
I don’t think I am ready to settle down with someone who is not ready to give me children.
We have a new kind of breed in the name of liberated ladies. These ladies come in all different shapes and sizes, in terms of what they have to offer.
Some do not want to bear children, saying that they don’t want to go through a painful ordeal, while others want to get married to their fellow women. What beats me is why they enter into relationships in the first place, if they don’t want to go through what a normal woman should.
These other ones who are into relationships with their fellow women, all I can say is that they are brainwashed.
It is evident that your fiancée is one of these so called liberated women who feel that having children is a thing of the past, or maybe she is much older than you might think, and past the bearing age, you never know.
Sometimes some of these girls have undergone several abortions, and thus many have injured their uterus, meaning they have been clinically tested and told that as a result of their abortions they will never have children in their lives.
So in a bid to cover up their innuendo’s they come with all sorts of excuses as to why they don’t want children, but deep down they are grieving like any other woman who can’t experience the joy of motherhood.
She might say that, but wait until she sees a child and you will see her face fall with sadness. What I am saying is that you must know as to why she is talking like this.
In my life I am yet to meet a woman who chooses not to have babies, every woman’s joy is to hold that bundle of joy in their arms. No words can describe how I felt when I held my babies when they were born.
There might be underlying problems with your fiancée which I would urge you to very quickly find out, before you tie yourself to a person who does not share common views with you.
If she tells you that she does not want children even before you two get married, what will happen once she becomes your wife?
Be ready to cook, do the laundry, the dishes and worse of all be ready to be spending some nights alone in your matrimonial bed since she will be busy hanging out with her girlfriends.
The choice is all yours, you are the one who is going to live with this woman for the rest of your life, if you want to have children then you should let her know in advance that when it comes to that there is no compromise.
If you feel comfortable living with her knowing that children will never be a part of your lives, then so be it.
The decision is entirely yours. Do what you feel is right for you.