If you are the kind of person that feels unhappy when others have acquired what you don’t have, that is a sign of jealousy and envy. God never blesses a jealous heart because it only thinks about itself and no other.
Jealousy refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and envy over virtual lack of ownerships, status or something of great personal value, mainly in reference to a comparator.
Jealousy regularly consists of one or more emotions such as anger, resentment, lack, vulnerability or hatred and it ranges from the young to the old, men and women. We ought to be guided by the word of God to avoid jealousy.
Jealous people spend most of their time gossiping about others yet James 4:11-12 says, “Do not speak against one another, brothers and sisters. He who speaks against a fellow believer or judges a fellow believer speaks against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but its judge.
But there is only one who is a judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. On the other hand, who are you to judge your neighbor?” this scripture encourages us not to judge others because we are sinners who need God’s grace and it is only God who has the authority to judge us.
Therefore brethren, if you notice that someone is envious about what you possess, just share with them of that which God has blessed you with or teach them what they can do to earn that instead of getting angered by their actions Romans 12:21 states, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Are you the kind of person who only thinks about you, your children and family members but never takes time to know about your neighbors?, it is high time you reformed. Let us reach out to our neighbors and friends since sometimes they could be in need, that is to say, lacking money, food, shelter and clothes yet we can pass a helping hand because God blesses a giving hand. The bible tasks us to love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves. Philippians 2:3 restores us that, “Instead of being motivated by selfish ambition or vanity, each of you should, in humility, be moved to treat one another as more important than yourself.”
Jealousy people brag in public about the riches they own like cars, money, mansions, all this does not amuse God, for it is written in James 3:14-16, But if you have bitter jealousy and selfishness in your hearts, do not boast and tell lies against the truth. Such wisdom does not come from above but is earthly, natural, and demonic. For where there is jealousy and selfishness, there is disorder and every evil practice.”
Jealousy is a bad habit and sin that needs to be prayed for because the devil is always at work to tempt us, we need to lean on God to overcome it and all the temptations it comes with. In James 4:7-8, it is written, “So submit to God. But resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and make your hearts pure, you double-minded.”
Psalm 37:1-3 evidently says, “Do not fret when wicked men seem to succeed!
Do not envy evildoers! For they will quickly dry up like grass, and wither away like plants. Trust in the Lord and do what is right! Settle in the land and maintain your integrity!”
This scripture heartens us not to feel jealous just because nonbelievers have acquired it all in life, may be they could have got their riches after murdering others, their wealth shouldn’t confuse us since one day they will be accountable to God and when we die, we shall go empty handed like how came on earth.
Proverbs 14:30 states, “A tranquil spirit revives the body but envy is rottenness to the bones.” This means that when you are envious, your whole being is feculent.
Jealousy comes when we are not gratified with the little we have, still the bible warns us against too much love of money because it is the root cause of all evil. Hebrews 13:5 declares, “Your conduct must be free from the love of money and you must be content with what you have, for He has said, “I will never leave you and I will never abandon you.” Let us look unto God because He is the one the supplies all which we desire.
Jealousy makes us believe that what we have is not enough and hence starting to compare ourselves to others and wishing to have owned all that glitters, which is wrong, all what we yearn for God has, James 1:17 reveals, “All generous giving and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or the slightest hint of change.”
Ask yourself whether your happiness depends on having worldly pleasures, sometimes your jealousy might be hidden and your friends could not notice yet deep down in your heart you are complaining asking yourself questions like, why ain’t I wealthy?, the most beautiful? Why are others better than me? Why don’t I have the most expensive car or latest phone? Would you rather start thinking and appreciating God for the positive things you have that others do not have?
Let the Ten Commandments guide us on how we can control our selfish interests, Proverbs 3:1-3 reads, “My child, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for they will provide a long and full life, and they will add well-being to you. Do not let truth and mercy leave you; bind them around your neck,write them on the tablet of your heart.”
Colossians 3:2 inspires us to keep thinking about things above, not things on the earth, we should think about love, goodness, forgiveness instead of unnecessary competition and grudges.
When you notice you are blessed with what others do not have, use it to help the needy and serve God but don’t become proud, Galatians 5:13 says, “For you were called to freedom, brothers and sisters; only do not use your freedom as an opportunity to indulge your flesh, but through love serve one another.”
Jealous leads to hatred, envy, destruction, selfish ambitions, slander, strife, temptation, murder, revenge and worse more, as stated in Proverbs 6:34,”For jealousy kindles a husband’s rage, and he will not show mercy when he takes revenge.”
However, it might not be easy to just stop getting jealous out of the blue, we need to get time and ask God to guide us and forgive us all our greedy behavior ,but we should change our ways for good because God is always ready to hear from us if we pray , regardless of our sins. Luke 11:13 states, “If you then, although you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”