How do you say ‘sorry’ to your loved one?

Apology is the best way to mitigate bad feelings. However, how we apologise goes a long way in hitting the right chords in the hearts of those we have offended or feel offended. You can’t just tell Angela “I’m sorry” and laugh hard at it. She will feel more hurt than if you had not said sorry but simply showed her the stiff middle finger salute. But sexing it up a bit would make all the difference, even if deep in your heart you don’t mean it.

Apology is the best way to mitigate bad feelings. However, how we apologise goes a long way in hitting the right chords in the hearts of those we have offended or feel offended. You can’t just tell Angela “I’m sorry” and laugh hard at it. She will feel more hurt than if you had not said sorry but simply showed her the stiff middle finger salute. But sexing it up a bit would make all the difference, even if deep in your heart you don’t mean it.

It’s a common thing for people to just tell their loved ones “Okay, I’m sorry” and trudge on as if that has already worked. It’s not enough. Just never says “okay” before an apology. It amounts to ‘surrender—saying it for the heck of it. You need to say it as if it’s from deep within your heart that you are saying sorry.

Last week, Ben Mwine, a Ugandan society figure, took to the pulpit at Watoto Church in Kampala and asked the congregation to forgive him. His reason is that he had begotten a child out of wedlock. Some of us have always thought such confessions are made to parties involved, that is, the partners. But it appears Born Again have their own ways of doing things.

But here was Mwine apologising to the congregation after abandoning the mother of his child for another woman’s laps. The same man had been seeing two women at the same radio station he worked for, cheating on the mother of his child with another woman. Then later, with the other lover moving on to NTV, Mwine extended his contract that side and fell for another of this woman’s workmate, with whom he is now set to marry. So, to whom should Mwine apologise if not to the mother of his child?

In love, showing remorse is important. We need to show our loved ones that we are truly sorry when things are not going smoothly. You can’t navigate the bumps without showing your love that you really feel bad for yourself over whatever you are being accused of. If you will cross your legs and cheer Man United while you smoking and drinking then blurt out “I’m sorry”, you will probably cause more heartbreaks.

It’s not pretentious if you say, “Hun, I do appreciate what you are saying and I will ensure this does not happen again. Please understand me; I’m sorry.”

Yes, we all know people are fixing their last touches ahead of the polls on Monday, but apology will still remain an expression of regret, no matter the hurry you are in. Leave ‘okay’ to those who sleep in brothels; they don’t know love. Strive for expressions that outline true feelings of romance and filial understanding.

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