Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. But do couples change for the better after marriage? Society Magazine’s Martin Bishop asked for people’s views on the issue.
I changed my extravagant lifestyle when I got married. I would hang out and buy beer for people but I don’t do that anymore. I’m a very responsible man and I thank marriage for that.
Bosco Konde Ntwari, Auto spares dealer
It’s funny how people think marriage can transform a person into someone else. My husband assumed that as soon as we got married, I would turn into a world class cook, housecleaner and perfect mother. I simply stayed the same.
Caroline Mbada,Wine dealer
No, just like leopards can’t change their spots, people don’t change. When couples fall in love and get married, it should be because of who they are, not for what they can change about the other.
Francis Iraguha, Actor
Yes, people do change though not everyone. I never thought I would ever go to bed before midnight, but that changed when I got married. It’s now four years and I go to bed early and enjoy it.
Thomas Muvunyi Dunde, Onatracom bus driver
It’s unwise to marry a man thinking he will change because they never do. You should marry someone because you love them just the way they are.
Gisa Sonia, Model
People change after marriage especially women. When the baby comes into the mix, a lot changes. They become nice, respectable and responsible beings.
Fidele Ngenzi,Orchestra Impala Member
Yes, marriage changes us; I can’t hang out with my girls till late like I used to. Nowadays I miss my babies and my husband and want to be with them every single minute. I even learnt to cook and wash. The old me is long gone and surprisingly I love the new me..
Leonie Bishumba, Gitega resident
People don’t change; they can pretend to be who their partner wants them to be but sooner or later their true colours surface. I would marry a person the way they are and not expect them to change. If they do, that would be a good surprise.
Kenneth Nkotanyi, Sales