Everyone has been guilty of either staring or being stared at. And it comes to its worst when the people staring are in a group. Often, despite the fact that they’ve noticed that YOU are feeling uncomfortable, they don’t stop.
They make it so obvious that it gets annoying. In Rwanda, majority of pedestrians are guilty of this vice. In fact, even when someone is in their car, they want to stretch their necks and stare at them.
Its okay to look at something or someone because it’s natural; but when you over do it, then it becomes rude. What’s even ruder than staring at someone for no particular reason is staring at them for an obvious reason. I’ve seen people stare at those who are deformed, handicapped, overweight, scarred from burns or other incidents. While you may think it’s natural to just stare, think of how the person who is being stared at must feel. Many people who have an obviously disfigurement or disability feel self conscious about it and get sick of people staring at them all the time.
It’s easy to forgive a child staring simply because many of them don’t know any better. But for those who are old enough to know better and still continue to do it should be ashamed of themselves.
And although most children don’t know any better for, it is up to their parents to teach them. It shouldn’t be condoned when your child is talking about someone who has a disability, disfigurement, or who is overweight.
In Rwanda people stare even for no particular reason. It seems like they just want to look at something. Should someone just pretend that nothing is happening or should they tell the offending person to stop?
Learning to watch our eyes and our tongues will go a long way. I know sometimes staring can be done in admiration but it’s usually easy to distinguish that from when someone is just being rude, especially is unwarranted comments are involved.