The Awards that were

I havenever been so thrilled about an award nomination, in fact, in the past, I would learn from a friend that I had been nominated and some awards would find me at work. There was something special about the Smart Excellence Award, it was my first nomination in my new home of Rwanda, and it coming...

Thursday, October 11, 2018, 11:29 PM

When kids turn against you

I have always wondered what parents tell their children about each other and the effect it has in the long run. I once knew of a couple where the husband had a well-paying job and could afford to provide for his family. He left work upon reaching retirement age, meaning he had a lot of time on...

Thursday, October 4, 2018, 9:10 PM

The lies women tell

Sheila and I are tight, we talk about anything and everything and we know each other’s shady stories. She had talked of several men over the years but somehow, I never got to meet any of them, so I was pleasantly surprised and excited when she asked me to meet one of her boyfriends. This one...

Thursday, September 27, 2018, 11:07 PM

Nothing good comes out of a comfort zone

Brian‘Head’ Welch was founder and lead guitarist of a platinum winning band. At a point in his life he was consumed with fear when he overheard his daughter sing a song done by ‘Korn’ his band ‘all day I dream about sex,’ he wondered what he was doing to his...

Friday, September 21, 2018, 8:20 AM

Not sugar coated

On September 10 each year, the world observes World Suicide Prevention Day to raise awareness on suicide prevention. This year, I find myself thinking that one of the main contributors to suicide is bottling up the things that burden us. I feel that it is important for each one of us to have at...

Thursday, September 13, 2018, 9:19 PM

Rwanda Decides 2018

I cannot remember the last time an election season passed without me noticing it. There is a popular Swahili saying that states kutembea kwingi ni kuona mengi which loosely translates to ‘the more you travel the more you get to see and learn different things.’  Having lived in...

Thursday, September 6, 2018, 10:23 PM

The reckless nature of motorbike riders

In this region, with the kind of traffic we have, there are times you just want to (or have to) park your car and jump onto a motorbike, as life endangering as it is. They come in very handy when you need to get to a place fast. I recently got involved in a motorbike (moto) accident. Third time in...

Thursday, August 30, 2018, 11:43 PM

I am HIV positive

Yes, I can almost guess your reaction to the title of today’s article. It’s probably a mixture of surprise, fear, excitement, worry and the desire to quickly get on with the article to find out whether I’m writing about myself. Relax, this article is not about me but about the...

Thursday, August 23, 2018, 11:21 PM

When alcohol knocks and it’s let in

Every now and then I recall an incident at home where my sister and I were berating a younger sibling for drinking himself silly. His girlfriend was visiting and watched on as we screamed at each other and as her man downplayed the whole issue. The girl picked her bag and left but not before she...

Thursday, August 16, 2018, 11:20 PM

Why do we want expensive weddings?

I am not a big fan of wedding ceremonies and my close friends know that I will do anything possible to dodge them. This month is different, I have attended two weddings already and I have two more pending. In one month I will have attended more weddings than I have in the last three years! I...

Thursday, August 9, 2018, 11:40 PM

‘Come we stay’ relationships

I find it interesting that the majority of Rwandan girls hardly move out of their parents’ home unless they are moving into a man’s home as a wife. A man who has made himself known to her family and officially asked for her hand in marriage. However, there could be some who find...

Thursday, August 2, 2018, 10:25 PM

When the place you call home, calls you foreigner

With increased migration for various reasons, more and more people are living away from their countries of origin, working, marrying and setting up families with people from countries other than their own. Regardless of how or why people settle in ‘foreign’ lands, for most of them...

Friday, July 27, 2018, 12:09 AM

Given a chance, would you still choose your family?

Last Sunday, the preacher in my church was talking about ‘sonship’ and the privileges that come with being a child of ‘so and so’. He was speaking in reference to the relationship between man and God but it’s his earthly examples that got me thinking, especially...

Thursday, July 19, 2018, 11:35 PM

Social media friendships: Is it time to reconsider?

Over the past few years, the social media phenomenon has rapidly grown and penetrated almost every family and home across the globe. With its growth, more and more people are struggling to maintain actual physical relationships and instead are focusing on pokes, likes and compliments from social...

Thursday, July 12, 2018, 9:29 PM

The power of giving

In my line of work, it is not unusual to be called to the reception to meet a stranger. These strangers come in all shapes and forms, with all manner of stories and at times with different motives. Over the years, some of the stories I have listened to have surprised me, others have shocked me, and...

Thursday, July 5, 2018, 10:50 PM

Be good, do good, it finds its way back to you

I have always said and continue to believe that the world is full of good people. Unfortunately, due to various stereotypes, we find it hard to give each other a chance to be and do good. For instance, I have met people who claim to hate someone else yet they barely know them. I have also met...

Thursday, June 28, 2018, 10:47 PM

The era of deadbeat dads

Every third Sunday of June is designated Father’s Day and each year on this day, people around the world find various ways to honour the fathers and father-figures in their lives. Unfortunately, we live in times when more and more mothers are playing both their role and that of the father...

Thursday, June 21, 2018, 8:44 PM

Kigali grocery shopping situation

Kigali is really going to teach me how to plan, budget and shop ahead. Unlike in the past where I would bump into vegetable sellers in every corner, in Kigali I have to embark on a whole journey before I find a grocery stall. You must really look to find one because groceries are not sold...

Thursday, June 14, 2018, 10:41 PM

To leave or not to leave my parents’ home?

Recentlyon the Kigali in the Morning show, we had a discussion on when is the right age for one to leave their parents’ home and live on their own. This is normally a sensitive subject, like many other subjects considered personal. I have a friend who has done well for himself. Jackie...

Thursday, June 7, 2018, 8:17 PM

We can control what we say about ourselves

Last week the world commemorated Africa Day 2018, something done annually on May 25 to, amongst other things, symbolise the determination of the people of Africa to free themselves from foreign domination. My sister Linda coordinated a successful Africa Day event at Trinity College Dublin and had...

Friday, June 1, 2018, 4:00 AM

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