Business lessons from the Expo 2019

Kigali International trade fair is in its third week and a walk through the Gikondo Expo grounds gives one a lot of business lessons and experiences to either avoid or learn from. The trade fair presents an opportunity for many young people that could be job hunting, to make a quick buck. For...

Friday, August 2, 2019, 12:00 AM

A lesson about mob justice

Having grown up in a small village surrounded by relatives and neighbours who spent their time in drinking joints, Walter made a vow to never touch alcohol. And indeed he stuck to his word.  His mum left her marital home when he was six years old. As he went through the cultural practices...

Friday, July 26, 2019, 12:00 AM

Relationship or situationship?

At the end of relationship there are two things that could happen, either the two people involved will amicably go their separate ways or will start throwing shade at each other. Our African stories mostly fall in the second category. Sadly, when we get out is when we will say how much we had...

Friday, July 19, 2019, 12:00 AM

Where is the safe haven?

Following last week’s article a few people reached out to appreciate that I had written about the subject. Some even shared a few more experiences.  Celine forwarded to me an online link of a story of a woman who was first raped as a five-year-old girl. On that day her mother sent her...

Friday, July 12, 2019, 12:00 AM

Be your sister’s keeper

A young lady at a function I attended recently shared a heartbreaking experience. One that is so telling of how women suffer in the hands of men, but also telling of how women play a role in shaming fellow women while shielding our male counterparts. At the age of 42 and married with four children...

Friday, July 5, 2019, 12:00 AM

For all it’s worth, who are you?

For the last few days our beloved President Paul Kagame was trending for not mincing his words, well, he has never been known for that. He is the kind of person that says it as it is, or as he feels. Seeing one man defend a whole continent made many proud, but it also raises questions. For a...

Friday, June 28, 2019, 12:00 AM

Owning a church

Recently, a video surfaced online of a bishop in Kenya abusing bishops in his church over disrespecting his wife, he said it wouldn’t matter even if that bishop was his sibling. In the six-minute clip, Pastor James Ng’ang’a of Neno Evangelism Centre is seen cautioning some...

Friday, June 21, 2019, 12:00 AM

You are not your resume, you are your work

There is a statement that has lingered on my mind all week, “you’re not your resume you are your work”. I’m reminded of a conversation with Mary who has been out of university for a year and a half, after graduating from a Master’s class. She took the decision to...

Friday, June 14, 2019, 12:00 AM

Parenting; finding the balance

I recently walked into a mother and her 16-year-old daughter in a heated exchange, the young girl was distraught and her eyes swollen from hours of crying. I immediately pulled her to the side to find out what was going on and she said her mother had embarrassed her among her friends. I probed...

Friday, June 7, 2019, 12:00 AM

Do not provoke a woman

Last week’s article stirred emotions that did not settle until mid week. Mary was disturbed that in this day and age a man can see a nicely dressed woman and say she is dressed by a man or as per the basis of that story; she is going to ‘eat someone’s money’! As for Mutoni,...

Friday, May 24, 2019, 12:00 AM

The presumption that women survive on men’s money

The other day I was coming from work late in the evening and a friend had given me a ride. Somewhere near RDF headquarters, a taxi-moto guy overtook the car with a female passenger nicely dressed in a relatively short dress. The guy who was driving the car I was in immediately said the woman was...

Friday, May 17, 2019, 12:47 AM

Divorce and everything in between

One thing being decried by many in Kigali today; silently or loudly is the high divorce rates. Whether it’s a church, salon or massage parlour one can’t help but overhear a story about someone who has left the country after a nasty divorce or one who remarried a few weeks after their...

Friday, May 10, 2019, 12:00 AM

An umuganda experience

Last Saturday was Umuganda and I had been looking forward to it. When I said I had participated in Umuganda a few times before, none was in my current village, so on Saturday I decided to debut. I underestimated what this meant to the community and my chairman. He was so happy to see me; a few...

Friday, May 3, 2019, 12:00 AM

To cheat or not to cheat; choices have consequences

A lady had been faithful to her marriage and respectful of the vows she made to stick with her husband in all conditions. Their six year union had been blessed with two children.  Along the way, whenever she would join her husband and his friends in the absence of their wives it would...

Friday, April 26, 2019, 12:42 AM

Balancing relationships and work

From time immemorial whenever someone has a chance to interview or interact with a career woman who seems to have her life in order, one question is always asked, how do you balance work and family? This is mainly in reference to husband and children. I did a simple survey on different social...

Thursday, April 18, 2019, 7:47 PM

When ‘pastoral’ lanes get mixed up

‘Wow, dear sister Bwana Yesu Asifiwe’ ‘Amen asifiwe sana.’  ‘How are you and our parents?’ ‘I am doing great. The parents and the entire family are well. Thanks for asking. How are Martha and Jonathan?’ ‘Martha and Jonathan are well....

Friday, April 5, 2019, 2:23 AM

That ‘tired’ but favourite undergarment

Girlfriend, have you ever sat on a moto then wondered what people would see underneath your skirt if you fell badly with your legs lifted up? How about that bra strap; are there times when you have to keep pushing it back because you know it’s a ghastly sight? Many women are stunning,...

Thursday, March 28, 2019, 8:42 PM

Fear a man with a loose tongue

A longtime ago, gossip was associated with women; groups would be seen doing ‘high five’ as they walked to the water stream, meetings were for catching up on who had bought a new dress or whose husband had abandoned her. Lo and behold, things changed, these days you’ll get more...

Thursday, March 21, 2019, 9:46 PM

Put that gadget away for a moment

This week, an old friend came to mind for one distinctive character; he was never enslaved to his phone or any form of technology. Gabriel would never carry his phone to any appointment or house visits. I recall the first time he came to our home, and towards the end as he was departing, I...

Friday, March 15, 2019, 12:00 AM

How would you live if you were given a second chance?

I have an aunt who has been ailing for almost a year now. I could not believe my eyes when I first saw her lying on the ground. The once bubbly, chubby and fiery aunty Hellen was a shadow of her former self. She struggled to lift her upper body in order to give me a hug; meanwhile I struggled to...

Friday, March 8, 2019, 12:29 AM

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