New Year resolutions never worked for me

Next year I want to know God more, I will buy a car, I will go back to school, I will make new friends, I will buy a house! These and many others make it to people’s New Year resolutions. Some will appear once while others make a comeback year in year out.  If there are any lessons...

Friday, December 27, 2019, 1:06 AM

May the real you, please stand up

On Monday December 16, a BBC docudrama entitled Fake Heiress explored Anna Delvey’s rise and fall. You may not know who she is, I also didn’t until I read stories about her. After watching her story I concluded that Anna is testimony of how easily appearances can blind us, especially...

Friday, December 20, 2019, 12:00 AM

Boyfriend for the season

It is that time of the year when we celebrate seeing and being around grannies and old aunties, but on the other hand, you want to avoid them because if you have been married and there’s no sign of pregnancy they will ask questions.  If you’re single and came unaccompanied, you...

Friday, December 13, 2019, 12:00 AM

When parents control their children’s relationships

Timothy took a while before getting married and as a result, enjoyed a long relationship with his mother. Let’s call him ‘mummy’s boy’. He depended on her for everything. When he moved out on his own, he rented an apartment close to home because he wanted to drop by whenever...

Friday, December 6, 2019, 12:00 AM

Days of activism

The 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence are on. This is an annual international campaign that kicked off November 25, 2019 and will go on till December 10. This year’s commemoration comes hot on the heels of the recently concluded Global Gender Summit and in the course of...

Friday, November 29, 2019, 12:00 AM

The ‘good ones’ were born in November

I celebrated my birthday on November 18 and what a blessing this journey of life has been. Until last year I would openly say my age, then one day while watching an interview of a prominent lady I respected, she said a woman who goes blubbering her age has a big mouth and cannot be trusted with any...

Friday, November 22, 2019, 12:00 AM

What is self-love?

An online magazine recently asked for my thoughts on self-love. We say it a lot but do we know what it means or entails? My head went round and round analysing different actions that confirm I love myself; I critically and quietly asked myself about things I did that could have made someone treat...

Friday, November 15, 2019, 12:00 AM

Divorce; what is there to regret?

38-year-old Damascene has just gone through a divorce. I sat down with him to find out how he was and whether he is enjoying his newfound freedom or new status! He said all is well, he is loving the early days of it, and he is relieved it is all behind him because for the last many months he has...

Friday, November 8, 2019, 12:00 AM

For what reason would you say ‘I do’?

Early this week someone asked for my opinion on how many people get married for convenience, how many do it hoping to fall in love with a partner that already loves them, how many get married hoping they will be given a comfortable life. Truth be told, people get married for varied reasons and the...

Friday, November 1, 2019, 12:00 AM

Where are the women?

At a women’s event last week I had the pleasure of interacting with young hardworking and passionate women who are using their gifts and talents to change their livelihoods and contribute to changing their communities at large. One thing that was echoed by many participants and speakers,...

Friday, October 25, 2019, 12:00 AM

Are you a pacemaker or the opposite?

Last weekend the world watched as Eliud Kipchoge sprinted to the finish line, making history as the first human being to run a marathon in under two hours. When he took on the INEOS challenge, Eliud said it was to prove that man has no limits. I believe that. Do you?  We were created to be...

Friday, October 18, 2019, 12:00 AM

Sex... for everything

Sex for food. Sex for fees. Sex for grades. Sex for salvation. Sex for a job.  The world we live in has made life really difficult for some women. It is disheartening to watch exposes of how men use their positions to manipulate and abuse women.  Mercy was a young girl when her...

Friday, October 11, 2019, 12:00 AM

The downside of working in the limelight

Having spent a relatively long time on a job that puts me out there, I have learnt to appreciate childhood friendships. People I went to high school and college with, people who held my hand as I started my career, those who paid for meals when I could not afford them, or accommodated me when I...

Friday, October 4, 2019, 12:00 AM

The power of travel

As we mark World Tourism Day I look back and smile because this year has been my best as a local tourist. I have taken the bus to Gisenyi, taken another one and gone up to the Rwanda-Burundi border, there’s no cuisine I thought of and did not find. And while at that, I ensured I did not spend...

Friday, September 27, 2019, 12:00 AM

How do we choose our battles in Africa?

This week, our Nigerian brothers and sisters went up in arms with their Kenyan counterparts over a decision by Warner Media to cast Lupita Nyong’o in ‘Americanah’ an adaptation of Chimamanda’s book.  To the Nigerian community, that role should have been given to a...

Friday, September 20, 2019, 12:00 AM

Lessons from an entrepreneur

My colleagues and I recently made a trip to Nyirangarama specifically to visit different projects run by Sina Gerard. He’s the proprietor of an enterprise named after him. The most amazing part of that tour was hearing the guy’s life story; he started off in his early 20s by opening a...

Friday, September 13, 2019, 12:00 AM

Are women stuck between the kitchen and the boardroom?

The seventh edition of the Tokyo International Conference on African Development recently concluded in Tokyo, Japan.  Over 25 African presidents and other males who represented their governments were present. Well, males because from the images of the attendees, the female representation...

Friday, September 6, 2019, 12:00 AM

Just have a giving heart…and hand

To the people that enjoy Hollywood movies, the ones that are crazy and go raving mad over their celebrity stars, Anne Hathaway is no stranger. However, many of us that watch and adore her would not tell that our favorite actress had a life issue she was struggling with. When one is on TV, in...

Friday, August 30, 2019, 12:00 AM

Do we have genuine relationships at all?

Yvette stood before the mourners and poured out her tribute to the man of her life, the one she had called husband for 21 years.  ‘Albert and I met on campus and what started off as a friendship ended up in a marriage that became the only thing I lived for. Albert loved me; he loved...

Friday, August 23, 2019, 12:00 AM

When infertility is an issue

To the people that enjoy Hollywood movies, the ones that are crazy and go raving mad over their celebrity stars, Anne Hathaway is no stranger. However, many of us that watch and adore her would not tell that our favourite actress had a life issue she was struggling with. When one is on TV, in most...

Friday, August 16, 2019, 12:00 AM

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