Till a crime of passion does us part!

On the September 9 a Ghanaian pastor killed his wife in the city of Orlando. The man of God loaded his gun went to his wife’s place of work, a bank, and shot her dead in the presence of her colleagues. He was not a common ‘mwananchi or muturage’, he headed a congregation, he run a...

Friday, September 18, 2020, 12:00 AM

It is possible to prevent suicide

Last week I wrote about people moving on after the death of a spouse, and the story was based on a lady who had lost her 19-year-old husband after he committed suicide in the family garage. Camryn, the wife, opened up about how he died and shared the full story with the aim of addressing anyone who...

Friday, September 11, 2020, 12:00 AM

Death of a spouse: Are women stronger than men?

Are women stronger than men when it comes to grieving and moving on after the death of a spouse? I recently watched a YouTube video of a 19-year-old girl who became widowed after her also 19-year-old husband took his own life. According to her, they got pregnant at the age of 16, breaking the...

Friday, September 4, 2020, 12:00 AM

The story of matchmaking

Indian Matchmaking’ is a Netflix production that features Sima ‘aunty’ Taparia, a matchmaker who helps people unlucky in love to find those that they can connect with. Arranged marriages are a common thing in India and other parts of the world. Traditionally in Africa it was done...

Friday, August 28, 2020, 12:00 AM

Women get emotionally attached to relationships

The decision to walk out of a relationship is never an easy one women make, especially where children are involved. Bear with friends who keep coming to you for advice and each time you think it’s over, they go back. You are then invited back to their house and served by a woman wearing a...

Friday, August 21, 2020, 12:50 AM

Are we getting more ‘leeches’?

Have you heard about the ‘dry’ Rwandan dating market? If you live or have lived in Rwanda as a single woman, you might know what I’m talking about. Forget the days when they would not look in your direction, matters worsened, today a lot of men have diverted from being providers...

Friday, August 14, 2020, 12:00 AM

When a guy misreads his lady

For a long time I have quietly sat and watched groups of men lament over how they spent their money on some undeserving woman, and I wondered why they were with a woman they describe as undeserving in the first place. And did she force him to spend the money on her?  A few years back my...

Friday, August 7, 2020, 6:43 AM

Conflict resolution; leave the children out

A  certain lady got into an altercation with her husband, apparently over infidelity. Today, infidelity or not, the focus is on the fact that the woman of the home walked to the husband’s car and vandalised it out of rage. As she did this, the husband pulled out a phone and started...

Friday, July 31, 2020, 12:00 AM

Coping with the loss of a friend

July 17 was a Friday like any other; normally the highlight of the week at the office. The radio show is easy with live DJ mixes, live streaming and the rest of the day characterised by little pressure. This particular Friday, our colleague Emma said it was his son’s birthday and he wanted us...

Friday, July 24, 2020, 12:00 AM

Instagram live with the President; my experience

I recently had the pleasure of being selected among different personalities for an Instagram live interaction with President Paul Kagame. A lot of things ran through my mind. What is it I have always wanted to hear the President say, what question would I ask if I had even one minute to interview...

Friday, July 17, 2020, 12:00 AM

The concept of an open relationship

Jada Pinkett, wife to Actor Will Smith, trended this week after singer August Alsina claimed he had a love affair with the actress for years. He went on to say that her husband Will Smith knew about it and gave them his blessing. The Smith couple has previously denied divorce rumours, with Jada...

Friday, July 3, 2020, 12:00 AM

World suffers a deficiency of responsible men

Lately on the different social media sites, people share videos of women struggling to feed their children, or fighting with men over child support, or sometimes just making a public appeal after the father of the child or children went missing.  These cases have become too many that one...

Friday, June 26, 2020, 12:00 AM

The time to end rape is now

It is tiring to see, read and hear about rape. Tales of rape from the youngest and oldest of our society are just sickening. Who is safe, where are women safe? The time to end this is now, and as a woman I believe in the power we have to end this traumatising experience happening to women all...

Friday, June 19, 2020, 12:00 AM

Marriage longevity: What’s the secret to a long, happy union?

Her Majesty the Queen of England and the Duke of Edinburgh looked frail and aged in the latest photo released by Buckingham Palace to mark Prince Philip’s 99th birthday. For a couple that has been under constant scrutiny by the public and media, and with a lot of rules to observe, it appears...

Friday, June 12, 2020, 12:00 AM

Teenage pregnancy; what should be done?

A conversation I had about teenage pregnancy reminded me of my teenage years. When I was growing up my mum was the bad cop and my dad the good one, they had completely different ways of talking to their children and even punishing them for the wrongs they committed. At a certain age when the boobs...

Friday, June 5, 2020, 12:00 AM

Your attitude determines your altitude

I was in a conversation with a friend about attitude and perception. The impact that one’s advice has on us is fully dependent on how we perceive that person’s advice, and the altitude we will go shall be determined by our attitude. A few years ago a young lady came to me claiming...

Friday, May 29, 2020, 12:00 AM

Live a true love story and tell no one

The recent easing of the lockdown made it possible for us to catch up with friends that we had not seen for long. On a cool Sunday evening I went to Kimironko to meet Gasana because there was a lot for us to share. The conversation this time centered on the people we let around and into our lives....

Friday, May 22, 2020, 12:00 AM

‘Black sheep’ of the family

Have you ever followed a family whose every business is in the spotlight and just when you think you have read, seen and know everything about them, there’s a bereavement and the deceased is a child of the family yet you had never spotted them anywhere? It leaves you scratching your head...

Friday, May 15, 2020, 12:00 AM

Goodbye to traditional ways

Long gone are days when people would gather around the small family radio to hear the latest of what was going on in their country and outside. Radio was a precious possession. Fast forward to 2020 and today everyone could be a ‘radio or TV station.’ When the Ministry of Health wants to...

Friday, May 8, 2020, 12:00 AM

Nip it in the bud while you can

I woke up to a thread of people sharing their worst experiences. The question was about posting a photo taken when one was having the worst day of their life but still managed to pose and smile for the camera. The stories were immense and heart-wrenching. What broke my heart most was how many...

Friday, April 24, 2020, 8:59 AM

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