What is self-love?

An online magazine recently asked for my thoughts on self-love. We say it a lot but do we know what it means or entails? My head went round and round analysing different actions that confirm I love myself; I critically and quietly asked myself about things I did that could have made someone treat...

Friday, November 15, 2019, 12:00 AM

Divorce; what is there to regret?

38-year-old Damascene has just gone through a divorce. I sat down with him to find out how he was and whether he is enjoying his newfound freedom or new status! He said all is well, he is loving the early days of it, and he is relieved it is all behind him because for the last many months he has...

Friday, November 8, 2019, 12:00 AM

For what reason would you say ‘I do’?

Early this week someone asked for my opinion on how many people get married for convenience, how many do it hoping to fall in love with a partner that already loves them, how many get married hoping they will be given a comfortable life. Truth be told, people get married for varied reasons and the...

Friday, November 1, 2019, 12:00 AM

Where are the women?

At a women’s event last week I had the pleasure of interacting with young hardworking and passionate women who are using their gifts and talents to change their livelihoods and contribute to changing their communities at large. One thing that was echoed by many participants and speakers,...

Friday, October 25, 2019, 12:00 AM

Are you a pacemaker or the opposite?

Last weekend the world watched as Eliud Kipchoge sprinted to the finish line, making history as the first human being to run a marathon in under two hours. When he took on the INEOS challenge, Eliud said it was to prove that man has no limits. I believe that. Do you?  We were created to be...

Friday, October 18, 2019, 12:00 AM

Sex... for everything

Sex for food. Sex for fees. Sex for grades. Sex for salvation. Sex for a job.  The world we live in has made life really difficult for some women. It is disheartening to watch exposes of how men use their positions to manipulate and abuse women.  Mercy was a young girl when her...

Friday, October 11, 2019, 12:00 AM

The downside of working in the limelight

Having spent a relatively long time on a job that puts me out there, I have learnt to appreciate childhood friendships. People I went to high school and college with, people who held my hand as I started my career, those who paid for meals when I could not afford them, or accommodated me when I...

Friday, October 4, 2019, 12:00 AM

The power of travel

As we mark World Tourism Day I look back and smile because this year has been my best as a local tourist. I have taken the bus to Gisenyi, taken another one and gone up to the Rwanda-Burundi border, there’s no cuisine I thought of and did not find. And while at that, I ensured I did not spend...

Friday, September 27, 2019, 12:00 AM

How do we choose our battles in Africa?

This week, our Nigerian brothers and sisters went up in arms with their Kenyan counterparts over a decision by Warner Media to cast Lupita Nyong’o in ‘Americanah’ an adaptation of Chimamanda’s book.  To the Nigerian community, that role should have been given to a...

Friday, September 20, 2019, 12:00 AM

Lessons from an entrepreneur

My colleagues and I recently made a trip to Nyirangarama specifically to visit different projects run by Sina Gerard. He’s the proprietor of an enterprise named after him. The most amazing part of that tour was hearing the guy’s life story; he started off in his early 20s by opening a...

Friday, September 13, 2019, 12:00 AM

Are women stuck between the kitchen and the boardroom?

The seventh edition of the Tokyo International Conference on African Development recently concluded in Tokyo, Japan.  Over 25 African presidents and other males who represented their governments were present. Well, males because from the images of the attendees, the female representation...

Friday, September 6, 2019, 12:00 AM

Just have a giving heart…and hand

To the people that enjoy Hollywood movies, the ones that are crazy and go raving mad over their celebrity stars, Anne Hathaway is no stranger. However, many of us that watch and adore her would not tell that our favorite actress had a life issue she was struggling with. When one is on TV, in...

Friday, August 30, 2019, 12:00 AM

Do we have genuine relationships at all?

Yvette stood before the mourners and poured out her tribute to the man of her life, the one she had called husband for 21 years.  ‘Albert and I met on campus and what started off as a friendship ended up in a marriage that became the only thing I lived for. Albert loved me; he loved...

Friday, August 23, 2019, 12:00 AM

When infertility is an issue

To the people that enjoy Hollywood movies, the ones that are crazy and go raving mad over their celebrity stars, Anne Hathaway is no stranger. However, many of us that watch and adore her would not tell that our favourite actress had a life issue she was struggling with. When one is on TV, in most...

Friday, August 16, 2019, 12:00 AM

Business lessons from the Expo 2019

Kigali International trade fair is in its third week and a walk through the Gikondo Expo grounds gives one a lot of business lessons and experiences to either avoid or learn from. The trade fair presents an opportunity for many young people that could be job hunting, to make a quick buck. For...

Friday, August 2, 2019, 12:00 AM

A lesson about mob justice

Having grown up in a small village surrounded by relatives and neighbours who spent their time in drinking joints, Walter made a vow to never touch alcohol. And indeed he stuck to his word.  His mum left her marital home when he was six years old. As he went through the cultural practices...

Friday, July 26, 2019, 12:00 AM

Relationship or situationship?

At the end of relationship there are two things that could happen, either the two people involved will amicably go their separate ways or will start throwing shade at each other. Our African stories mostly fall in the second category. Sadly, when we get out is when we will say how much we had...

Friday, July 19, 2019, 12:00 AM

Where is the safe haven?

Following last week’s article a few people reached out to appreciate that I had written about the subject. Some even shared a few more experiences.  Celine forwarded to me an online link of a story of a woman who was first raped as a five-year-old girl. On that day her mother sent her...

Friday, July 12, 2019, 12:00 AM

Be your sister’s keeper

A young lady at a function I attended recently shared a heartbreaking experience. One that is so telling of how women suffer in the hands of men, but also telling of how women play a role in shaming fellow women while shielding our male counterparts. At the age of 42 and married with four children...

Friday, July 5, 2019, 12:00 AM

For all it’s worth, who are you?

For the last few days our beloved President Paul Kagame was trending for not mincing his words, well, he has never been known for that. He is the kind of person that says it as it is, or as he feels. Seeing one man defend a whole continent made many proud, but it also raises questions. For a...

Friday, June 28, 2019, 12:00 AM