Joyce Kirabo

What is the purpose of my life?

Dear Counsellor, I graduated from university last year and I still haven’t found what I am interested in doing. I stay with my parents and they are very patient with me, however, I do not think that will last long. I do not see myself working in the field I majored in and nothing seems...

Thursday, November 28, 2019, 11:00 AM

Should I tell my wife about my love child?

Dear Counsellor, I have a good marriage. I love my wife and she loves me. However, there is a small issue. I have a three-year-old child and my wife does not know about it. It happened during a rough patch in the marriage when I thought my wife would leave me. There was this co-worker I admired....

Thursday, February 7, 2019, 12:00 AM

I was fired from my job

Dear Counsellor, I was unceremoniously fired from my job after giving the company three good years of my life. I was employed on a contract and it was not renewed. All of my job appraisals have been good over the years. I am certainly qualified for the job. There was no explanation given to me...

Wednesday, January 30, 2019, 9:21 PM

Together and apart

Dear Counsellor, I have a child with a man who is 15 years my senior. The relationship is not working. I am living at his house. He said that I can stay, but we are in different rooms. He earns much more money than I do. I am a teacher. I want to improve myself, so I do not mind living at his...

Thursday, January 17, 2019, 12:00 AM

My mother spoils our adult brother

Dear Counsellor, Our mother has three children. She is raising her last child (a boy) differently than she did my sister and me. There is a 12-year difference between us and our brother. My father and mother do not live together. He lives in the country and she lives in town. I suspect that my...

Thursday, January 10, 2019, 12:00 AM

He divorced me now he wants me back

Dear Counsellor, My husband and I had a good marriage. We were both doing well professionally. We have two wonderful children. In addition, we did things together as a family. He never complained and I was satisfied. I got the shock of my life when he said he wanted a divorce without giving a...

Thursday, December 27, 2018, 12:00 AM

Be an exemplary leader

School academic leadership comes with multiple benefits ranging from being close and to teachers, wearing a special uniform, and not queuing for services at school.  In fact, this is why the election process has to rigorously ensure that only the most dedicated and impartial students are...

Tuesday, October 30, 2018, 8:50 PM

My family won’t approve of my marriage

Dear Counsellor, My family has a history of failed marriages and now it’s catching up with my cousins. I, on the other hand, am engaged to the man of my dreams and we have been dating for three years. I introduced my fiancé three weeks ago, and as per our tradition, he was asked to pay bride...

Wednesday, October 24, 2018, 10:25 PM

Avoid developing superiority complex and work on your social skills

Students’ academic success is largely influenced by different people including teachers and fellow students. If you can’t fit in any social group at school, it may be related to a false feeling that you’re either too superior to your friends or that you’re too feebly unfit...

Tuesday, October 23, 2018, 11:20 PM

Why am I so insecure?

Dear Counsellor, I don’t consider myself to be beautiful but I’ve been told many times that with the right clothes and a bit of makeup I look very pretty. I do get men leering at me a bit which makes me feel a bit shy, and the ones that come after me aren’t interested in me as a...

Wednesday, September 26, 2018, 10:47 PM

Do not wait to be spoon-fed

Dear Counsellor, This term, our economics teacher has been absent most of the time. Of late, she has resorted to distributing notes in class and assigning us to discuss the topics in groups. Although she explained that she has been feeling unwell and needs enough rest, we feel cheated of our...

Tuesday, September 25, 2018, 10:15 PM

My son’s deadbeat dad is back

Dear Counsellor, I had a brief relationship that resulted in getting knocked up. The day I told him about the pregnancy, he panicked and said he wasn’t ready for the responsibility. He was free to handle the information whichever way he saw fit. And he did — he vanished. The kid is now...

Wednesday, September 19, 2018, 9:59 PM

Use the opportunity to prepare yourself for future interactions

Dear Counsellor, Our new history teacher has a weird accent and it makes it hard for many of us to understand him. He snaps when we ask him to repeat something saying we do not pay attention. Students are actually afraid to approach him. What can we do? Martha - We’re all blessed with the...

Tuesday, September 18, 2018, 10:51 PM

My husband wants a divorce

Dear Counsellor, After 12 years of marriage, my husband has decided he wants a divorce. It hasn’t been perfect with us, but I didn’t know it was this bad. I want to stay married more than anything else, I just don’t want to be self-centred. He says he feels suffocated and that he...

Wednesday, September 12, 2018, 11:03 PM

Plan your revision time well

Dear Counsellor, I am a senior three candidate and I’ve always performed fairly well.  However, as this is our national examinations term, I find myself worried that I may not be fully prepared. I wake up at night just to revise but I feel like that is not enough. How can I boost my...

Tuesday, September 11, 2018, 10:58 PM

My step-children don’t like me

Dear Counsellor, I’m raising three step children but please advise me on how I can do it  well.  I think if you are to raise children like your own, then ‘beating’ and talking to them is necessary.  But these kids cannot be beaten or talked to.  Yes I love...

Wednesday, September 5, 2018, 11:43 PM

Do not give up on him

Dear Counsellor, My brother and I are one class apart. He is a smart guy but he always tries to seek attention, and never in a good way. He is what you call a ‘problem child’ and he is older than me so I don’t know how to go about it. He is always in trouble, and the worst part...

Tuesday, September 4, 2018, 11:41 PM

How do I tell a colleague he smells?

Dear Counsellor, My colleague really smells bad. I don’t mean sweaty like after a gym session, I’m talking so bad you can almost taste it. I suspect he hasn’t washed properly in ages and he wears the same clothes every day. When I mentioned it to my manager she said there was...

Thursday, August 30, 2018, 12:00 AM

Engagement woes

Dear Counsellor, I got engaged to a wonderful woman after a year of courtship. We met as students at university. We have great chemistry.  However, I was never fully accepted by her parents. At best, I was tolerated, but I was civil towards them. Things got bad when I proposed to her and she...

Wednesday, August 22, 2018, 10:07 PM

Attend parent-teacher conferences

A child’s academic performance is influenced by a number of factors; teachers, parents, individual brainpower and motivation. Parents are key players in the development of a child’s character, confidence, motivation and personal responsibility — all of which contribute to a child...

Tuesday, August 21, 2018, 9:58 PM