Women

Why does my baby only cry at night?

Dear Doctor, My one-year-old daughter cries a lot at night, yet she is always jolly during the day. At first I thought she had some sickness but when I took her for a check-up I was told she was fine. What could be the problem and how do I go about it? Mbabazi - Dear Mbabazi,   It is...

Wednesday, July 25, 2018 - 9:37pm

KWEZI AND I: It’s okay to change your mind

One of the tough things about being a first time parent is that you have no experience as backup. I thought that I had figured out exactly where I was taking Kwezi to school based on what I had seen but now I am not very sure. The school I had chosen was expensive but it was within what I have...

Wednesday, July 25, 2018 - 9:37pm

I lost interest in my religion

Dear Counsellor, I am from a staunch Muslim family, the kind who pray five times a day and even fast. Over the years, I felt myself get disconnected to this religion, and I’ve been spending time with some Christian friends, ‘Born Again’ to be exact, and even going to church. My...

Wednesday, July 25, 2018 - 8:57pm

What medicine should I avoid during pregnancy?

Dear Doctor, I am two months pregnant with my first baby. I have not had any complications, and it seems to be going smoothly. I would like to know, however, about taking medications during pregnancy. For example, I’m used to taking painkillers when I have a headache, is that still safe?...

Wednesday, July 18, 2018 - 11:20pm

Sex workers abandon cold nights for better livelihood

Vanessa Ishimwe is a composed young girl; however, behind her poise is a sad story. Her mother was a sex worker, and Ishimwe found out about it when she was 12 years old. With tears in her eyes, she recalls the pain of finding out what her mother did for a living; though she didn’t...

Wednesday, July 18, 2018 - 11:04pm

Will I ever find a job?

Dear Counsellor, It’s been three years since I graduated from college but I have failed to find a job. Every interview I’ve been to didn’t end well. No one has ever called me back. I thought about getting a loan to start a small business but I don’t think I have what it...

Wednesday, July 18, 2018 - 10:57pm

Why women in business are on the lighter side of the seesaw

The focus of many discussions is often on the women – or lack thereof – cracking typically male dominated industries, such as engineering, but there is also the unanswered question of why there are few women in the business sector. Despite commendable strides registered by Rwanda in...

Thursday, July 12, 2018 - 2:08pm

How can I stop bladder leakage?

Dear Doctor,   I lost bladder control when I was pregnant with my first child, and even the slightest sneeze would make me leak. However, it’s been seven months since I had the baby and somehow, this hasn’t changed. I have to rush to the bathroom and sometimes I leak almost...

Wednesday, July 11, 2018 - 9:05pm

I’m not ready for parenthood

Dear Counsellor, It’s been two weeks since my brother died, and I took in his three children. We are two siblings left, but my sister doesn’t live here and doesn’t communicate much. She called when our brother died but didn’t even make any effort to come for the burial...

Wednesday, July 11, 2018 - 8:28pm

Body piercing: A growing trend

Everyone attaches great value to something. For some, it’s shoes while others; it could be adventure or even stylish clothes. Other people will seriously argue that nothing beats their deep love for body piercing.  There are many reasons for body piercing as there are people. In some...

Friday, July 6, 2018 - 2:11pm

Sexual harassment: The woes of a young woman looking for employment

Lina Mutesi recently received a call from a friend who connected her to an official working with a government institution. For a young woman who had been searching for employment for years, the opportunity was almost too good to be true. And indeed it was. Even though it was not a long-term deal,...

Wednesday, July 4, 2018 - 8:56pm

KWEZI AND I: Lost moments

I have been lost lately; mostly in thought, and for a day or two, in work. I sat in for a colleague at work and I have renewed respect for what some of my superiors have to deal with on a daily basis. I have also admittedly been hanging out a little more than I normally do. While the latter part...

Wednesday, July 4, 2018 - 8:51pm

Should I tell my kids the truth about their father?

Dear Counsellor, I have a major problem with my two children. They are now in university and they are onto my secret. I told them that their father died when they were young. Now, they want to know more about their ‘dead’ father. The truth is that I fell in love with a married man. He...

Wednesday, July 4, 2018 - 8:47pm

Can I get a period during pregnancy?

Dear Doctor, Is it normal to get a period during pregnancy? I am two months pregnant but I got what looks like a period for about a day. I visited a local clinic and the nurse told me not to worry, that it happens. She checked me and everything seemed fine. I am not in any pain. Is this normal?...

Wednesday, July 4, 2018 - 8:33pm

21 year-old Mudenge on the inspiration behind her new grocery online platform

21 year- old Roxanne Mudenge Arakaza is the founder of Samples Rw, an online grocery delivery service in Rwanda that she launched last month. Her dream is to make the world a better place by creating solutions to people’s needs. The second year Business management student at University of...

Sunday, July 1, 2018 - 1:50am

KWEZI AND I: Celebrating unusual milestones

I am a woman of many words; that is not even a secret and from the look of things, Kwezi may take after me. Is that a good thing? Well, it perhaps depends on who you are asking. That said, at three and a half, Kwezi’s words are still hard to comprehend. It surprises many people because most...

Wednesday, June 27, 2018 - 10:56pm

How do I get my maid to stop gossiping?

Dear Counsellor, I recently hired a maid to help out around the house. As far as work goes, she is excellent. She is clean and orderly and very respectful. She cooks well too. The problem is, I found out she befriended almost the entire neighbourhood. She spends a lot of time gossiping with the...

Wednesday, June 27, 2018 - 10:53pm

Impanuro Girls Initiative: Nurturing girls with a vision

Violet Murekeyiteto started out selling avocado in her home area of Gitega, a Kigali suburb, but the little money she earned was barely enough to cater for the expenses of her home, let alone provide what was necessary for her two children. Even with her husband’s pay, it was still not enough...

Wednesday, June 27, 2018 - 10:45pm

What are the risks of using a tampon?

Dear Doctor, I’m 15 years old and started my period just three months back and my flow is normal. I would like to start using tampons as pads irritate my skin and sometimes leave me sore. Are tampons safe?  I worry that maybe it can get stuck. How often should I change?  Anita...

Wednesday, June 27, 2018 - 9:38pm

Meet Mukasine, a Genocide survivor inspiring widows to work their way to prosperity

Immaculée Mukasine and her daughter survived the 1994 Genocide against the Tutsi, but her husband and 45 members of her extended family were killed. Shortly after the killings started, she carried her four-month-old daughter and together with her husband, they fled to hide in the hills after they...

Wednesday, June 27, 2018 - 9:31pm