Develop strategies to manage your hot temper

Anger is a natural reaction to fear or threats and can instigate powerful, often aggressive, feelings which allow us to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, hence, is necessary to our survival.

However, if hot temper gets out of control and turns destructive, even if it’s justified, it can often get out of hand and cause severe torture both to your life and to those that interact with you. In such a situation, it’s crucial to find out what generates your anger and develop strategies that suppress it to be converted into more constructive behaviour. There is no single human being on earth that is completely free from anger. Similarly you cannot control the events that happen to you, but you can certainly have control over how you react to them to reduce both your emotional and physiological arousal that may be caused by anger. If you’re negative or angry around people, they probably aren’t that happy to see you either.

Controlling anger means staying positive and doing the right things. Usually, anger may be as a result of your own messy actions yet you keep assigning blame on others. Hence, there is need to often check your own actions and accord due respect to yourself and others. Humor can really help to defuse anger.

Make a plan on how to manage hot temper and check your progress on a regular basis to keep your cool and picture yourself as a supreme ruler, who owns yourself and that you have the power to suppress it. It’s a slow move but it eventually works. If certain things aggravate you, avoid them completely and let your temper subside. When you become angry and overly dramatic, involve yourself in doing academic, spiritual or social activities or visualising a place where you feel happy and eliminate tension in a relaxed and happy environment.

Some angry people use annoyance as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn’t take the hurt away. Anger is a serious emotion, but it’s often accompanied by ideas that, if examined, can make you laugh and you will have your body’s stress response lowered. Don’t feel angry about events which are over and unchangeable. Tell yourself that real power doesn’t come from dominating others, but from acknowledging difficult emotions and communicating your needs in a respectful way. You will live a cheerful and compatible social life both within and outside school.