LETTERS: Fathers are key to shaping their sons' gender outlook

The only way to end sexism is for men and women to stop thinking of themselves as men and women -- we are all human beings and we deserve fair treatment, respect, and equal access to opportunity.
Taxi-moto operators with banners declaring their commitment to HeforShe campaign. / File
Taxi-moto operators with banners declaring their commitment to HeforShe campaign. / File

Editor,

RE: “Why sexism is a threat to gender equality gains” (The New Times, August 25).

The only way to end sexism is for men and women to stop thinking of themselves as men and women—we are all human beings and we deserve fair treatment, respect, and equal access to opportunity.

However, insecurities in ourselves about who we are drive men and women to want to belong to a group of their own gender, groups of insecure men are the breeding ground for dangerous masculinity and misogyny.

Another major cause of dangerous masculinity and misogyny is the indirect lessons that children learn at home and at school while growing up. For example, many households consider it normal to allow the boys to go and play while the girls do the chores with their mother.

Think about it parents, what lesson have you just taught those boys and girls by that simple action?

1. That women are less valuable.

2. That men have less responsibility and can enjoy themselves at the expense of women.

3. That women should serve men.

Even if it was not your intention to teach this lesson, it is the lesson they learn. That is how child psychology works. Children do not simply learn from what you tell them, but also by observing society.

Mothers need to stand up at home for equal treatment of all children if a new generation is to rise. Strong mothers teach positive lessons to both male and female children while passive and submissive mothers are a danger to future society.

Fathers need to respect their spouses and participate in chores and activities at home. Both female and male children are watching and learning from how you and your spouse interact. For the current adult generation, a good start would be to explicitly call out and shame male chauvinism at the workplace, at ho me and at social places, without fear or hesitation.

Sasha

 

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