The pain erupted from deep within their souls when they were paying the last respects to their beloved one. Women and girls moaned aloud at the funeral.
Men just sat and watched. Though the grief inside them was deep, they had to abide by the golden rule: “Men don’t express their feelings”.
This may sound ludicrous to some of you, but it’s the rule. No matter how painful, exciting, or devastating the moment is, men can never express their feelings.
Does he ever mention that he loves you? Does he ever compliment on your dressing or hair style? Maybe he is real but he doesn’t want to break the golden rule.
To a woman, she will cry when she is sad and she will say she loves you when she feels it’s real. Men rather declare their wealth and anything meaningful to them than reveal their feelings.
Women have a million ways to express their feelings, for example she can cry, sulk, blush, or get extremely excited.
Remember Hannah in the Bible. She sobbed before God to show her inner sorrow of being childless. As for Adam when he sinned in the Garden of Eden, he reasoned with God.
Therefore, it’s not pretence for men not reveal their emotions, but it’s natural. “Our feelings are our pride. A real man is afraid of being judged using his own word against him,” says Robert Niyonzima.
To men, there are quite worthwhile reasons explaining why they are never open about how they feel.
If a man goes against the manly rule and becomes to emotional and sentimental, he earns himself names. Emotional men are rarely trusted by their counterparts.
“I strongly believe men who reveal their feelings are either paranoid or not straight. Being emotional is womanly,” says Guard Kanyamibwa.
With men, the whole getting emotional thing sounds like drama. And one thing that can make a contented guy discontented is being asked to talk about his feelings.
Men being secretive about feelings can ruin a relationship especially when you put them under pressure to say what they feel.
Tips on how to make a man confess:
• Instead of questioning him on how he feels about you, mention how you feel. No real man rejects a woman who truly loves him, slowly but surely he will open up. However, continuously reminding him about your feelings may be irritating.
• Read signs. Pressurizing him to confess will make him stubborn, so read between lines. Like they say, actions speak louder than words, if he loves you, you will see it in his actions. And if you are an option, you’ll still see it.
• Incase you want to ask him, find the best moments to do so. Men will reveal their feelings when they are intimate. And if he avoids confessing how he feels when you get intimate, get skeptical maybe he just wants a physical relationship.
• The other magic way to get a man reveal his feelings is being real and open to him. When he realizes that you are hiding no secrets, he won’t hide any either. Love is gold, get him confesses and you’ll have him forever.