Decoding good girls’ affinity for bad boys

For eon years, humans have expended a lot of energy and resources into studying the infinite relationship between angelic chicks and rug-tagged muffins and other urchins – whose descriptions this revered page would not permit. The good girl-bad boy syndrome is daunting to many.
Jacobs O. Seaman
Jacobs O. Seaman

For eon years, humans have expended a lot of energy and resources into studying the infinite relationship between angelic chicks and rug-tagged muffins and other urchins – whose descriptions this revered page would not permit. The good girl-bad boy syndrome is daunting to many.

You might be in the corporate employ and living the life, but your beautiful girlfriend will just dump you for a struggling barber. The white women come and all they look for in men are the personification of the bad boy. They want the ones wearing dreadlocks, and dirty dreads at that!

They want the ones whose chain-smoking skills makes the chimneys in tobacco factories choke with envy. They want the ones who are darn poor that they spend all their time borrowing cigarettes smoked to the filter.

They want the guys who are always swearing under their breathe, threatening to break the necks of anything that challenges their machismo.

And they dig these bad guys because…

The allure of the hook
Relationship is like fishing using the hook method. You have to bait the nice tilapia with fat worms, but by the time you decide on going fishing, you will have agreed to endure the storm, lake snakes and waterborne diseases, not to mention predators such as crocodiles. The tilapia (read good girls) see all these and weigh it in their heart. The beauty of it is that the fishing rod has a dangerous hook at its end. So, despite knowing that it is a bad guy they are agreeing to go out with (as in that deadly hook), the girl will always have the temptation to do so.

Girls are outgoing species
The good guys we have are all dying in their books. Yet the bad ones give no care to the world. They move with the winds. They have no sense of direction. This spurs the women on. They feel that such a man will take them to the world if the means allow. Such a man will not confine them to the home, that if the decides to stay home most of the time, it is because she wants.

A desire to change him
In essence, the good girl will be moved to empathise with bad guys. She begins to think that she can actually change the life of the bad guy. This is a gamble they take, but a year or so into the relationship, she finds that it is the man changing her instead.

No competition
It is about, “Who else can really want this broke bloke?” Girls don’t like cheats. Your corporate image is a source of insecurity to her. Yet, the rugged guy seems to be a social reject, with hardly anyone paying attention to them. A good girl will go for him with the hope that he will not be cheating.

Reassurance and protection
Good girls are often weak. They want to be protected in many ways. A man who keeps to his tablet, talks about multimillion projects he is involved in for his company will lure the material woman, and good girls are rarely materialistic. Greed is not known to be their middle name. The bad guy, on the other hand, gives her a sense of protection, because he appears just that: bad guy.

Bad boys are assertive go-getters
You want a lover? Go get it. That’s what bad boys are. They don’t sit and pick their nostrils while whispering to friends about how Jovia has flowery bums and come-get-me lips. These self-confessed muffins speak out their minds. Freely. When they send invites to girls, they do it with confidence.

Equality in relationship
Every girl dreams to have a relationship in which she will be equal with her man. These outgoing dudes cut it so perfectly, with the image they create that they can’t ‘own women’. The suave corporate guy will want to show the girl who is the head of the family, but not the bad guy.

Down-to-earth fellas
It’s true, good girls are humble. They look like they can make a snail’s movement sound harsh like a bulldozer’s activity if compared to the elegance and humility with which good girls do their thing. In bad guys, these girls see humble persons, especially if the bad guy is one who enjoys self-deprecating humour.

DISCLAIMER: Please don’t go and wear dreadlocks and start smoking weed thinking you will charm a white lass or that cute girl in office. Personality can’t be forced; it comes naturally.

 

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