I have been dating this guy for 2 years but we are on the verge of ending the relationship simply because he is always ranting about my dress code. I love my skirts and dresses short or above the knees and I believe I’m always smart. He says my dress code embarrasses him. I can’t take this anymore. How can I get him to embrace my dress code?
Doreen, 26, Nyarutarama
Well I bet you know that one of the things that attract a man to a lady is their dress code. I am actually surprised that you guys have actually been dating for two years already yet he thinks your dress code sucks.
This only means that this guy loves you way too much so you have to strike a compromise as a way of returning the favour. I mean he has been so nice to you that he accepted to put up with your skimpy dress code for two good years.
You are a lucky girl, so try and be a little decent yet still stylish. It doesn’t mean you have to dress up like a nun though. He probably doesn’t like you showing your thighs to every Tom, Dick and Harry!
Good luck as you revamp your closet for your man’s sake!
Eric, 31, a married father of one
Well first of all I don’t want to be too judgemental but it seems your guy is the Born Again type of guy or with the same beliefs. If the main reason you’re breaking up is because of attire, then you have very big issues. Relationships can be so stressing at times and I believe there are bigger issues to cause a split.
However, one thing that comes with a successful relationship is compromise - more so when it comes to changing for the better. Short dresses aren’t bad but other outfits won’t kill either. Try reducing the number of times you putthem on and see if things will get better between the two of you.
Patrick, 21, in a long-term relationship
Honestly, I think that the gentleman in question is looking for a fight. You say that you’ve been dating for the last two years. I assume that you’ve dressed the same way for the whole time. In fact, it seems that you wore short clothes even before you knew the fellow! So, why is he making it a big deal now? Is it because he is ashamed of you?
The way we dress tells the world who we are as individuals. Why is he trying to change who you are? I think that instead of asking him to get ‘comfy’ with your style, I think that he is the one who should grow up and allow you to make your own choices. And if he feels that you ‘shame’ him, he can get someone he can be proud of.
I am slightly uncomfortable about your use of the word ‘rant’. If you feel threatened, either emotionally or physically, do not waste a second. Get Out!
Lincoln, 32, lives with his girlfriend