Cohabiting is a highly controversial issue in Rwanda. Some people think it’s close to a taboo, and others feel it’s not a bad idea after all. Society Magazine’s Ivan Ngoboka talked to various people to get their thoughts on the issue.
I really wouldn’t have any problem with cohabiting as long as I am assured of love and faithfulness from my partner.
Niyitegeka Angelique, dry cleaner
The only way to show that you attach value to your partner is by tying the knot, cohabiting is only evidence that you don’t take them seriously.
Ngoga Gilbert, aspiring artist
For a low income earner like me cohabiting would be convenient since I wouldn’t afford a wedding .
Turikumana Eric, motorcyclist
Since cohabiting rarely leads into marriage it’s a common cause of single parenthood. So there is no way I could agree with it.
Samson Kasasiira, Marketeer
Cohabiting saves one from an abusive marriage; some men think marriage gives them license to treat their partners with mischief.
Muzigabanga Consolee, housewife
Cohabiting encourages promiscuity since it’s usually based on little commitment. Partners think they are not accountable to each other, and as a Christian, I can’t support that kind of lifestyle.
Nganji Samson, Fine artist
There is no way I would side with cohabiting because it goes against our cultural principles as Rwandans.
Gloria Mutoni, Banker
I think cohabiting is a good idea because it gives chance to partners to study each other before jumping into a marriage that may not work out.
Norman Gabiro, student