I am not a resolution fan myself but I know some people go pretty deep with them so I took the liberty to think of some (yeah right...I totally Googled) to apply to your own relationships and see if they will be of any help. If they are – you can thank me over a drink, if they are not – well – three words for you – it wasn’t me!
I will continue to insist that communication is arguably the most important thing in a relationship. Without it, there is practically NO relationship. Try as hard as you can to do away with technology. I’m not saying sell your phone, laptop and other gadgets – I’m saying talk to him while having a cup of coffee together, not texting him over a cup of coffee! If you want to say ‘I love you’, prove you are not dumb and say it to his face not in an email!
Make each other a priority – I know that this is hard to do when a man’s eye is glued to Messi’s feet during those games you find so silly but after Messi is done running around...he will focus on you. I know this doesn’t seem fair but you see, Messi lives in some country not even remotely close to Rwanda so he will never physically be around to sabotage your relationship – he is just on TV!
Affection is one thing some people never admit they have a problem with. Some guys are like robots, without even the ability to give a woman a hug from time to time! Hold hands, hug, cuddle before bed, kiss hello and goodbye and sit close together...men might not agree with this but if a woman lets her man watch Messi chasing a ball, surely the least he can do is hold her a little!
From my Googling skills, I have learnt that playing games together actually strengthens your bond as a couple.
Now before men get all excited, let me be specific about the ‘games’ I am talking about here – perhaps monopoly or a game of cards - please don’t jeer at me - you are free to play any game you want – after all, we are adults!
Humans live for praise even when they have done nothing praiseworthy! In this case, acknowledge both the big and little things your partner does, it will mean the world to them. “Thanks for making the bed” seems a little ‘minor’ but trust me, when it comes to someone who is allergic to laying beds - that is the greatest motivation!
Try being more patient and tolerant...screaming about every irritating thing your man does is simply unacceptable. If you really must, scream in a pillow, preferably when he has already headed out to work!
Also, try to laugh from time to time; you don’t have to act like soldiers 24/7. Take of the combat gear, let yourselves loose, open a bottle of wine and reminisce about really funny times you had together. Try doing that at least twice a week (for the really uptight couples that is).
Share feelings, not thoughts! Some people decide to tell their partners every little detail going on their mind when they get mad – hence saying things they later wish they could take back. Instead of shouting, name-calling or blaming your partner, share your feelings. For instance, instead of saying, “You never remember anything, you forgetful prick,” say “I am hurt and disappointed that you forgot our anniversary.”
Have a happy and blissful 2013.