I think that’s the thought that goes through most people’s minds these days when they actually have to pull out a phone and express their ideas or feelings through a call as opposed to a text.
Most of us have either dated the serial ‘texter’ or been the serial texter in the relationship, and unless someone points it out, you don’t really realise how wrong it is.
I will admit, I do use my phone a lot whether its to check out whats new on Twitter, my instant messages, texts and emails but I try to avoid using it, but its so hard when most of my friends are all over the place and even the guy at the moment is a serial texter.
You see a guy who is a serial texter is the worst. I can deal with my best friend contacting me by some kind of instant message app or something because we don’t live close and don’t have as much time as we used to catch up with work and all. But a man who is a serial texter will leave a bad taste in your mouth.
I’ve dated a couple of those before and honestly, what is the most disappointing thing about it all is that these men usually sound hotter and smarter over text… if that makes sense. Ok let me put it this way, some guys have major game over the phone.
Scenario: You meet a guy at a party through mutual friends and everyone gets along, he stands out not just for his looks but for his more demure and mysterious personality, so obviously you’re intrigued. As you are about to leave, he asks for your number. Inside you’re pretty excited but calm yourself down enough to give out your number plus you don’t want to hype yourself up, it’s a 50/50 chance that you could end up just being another girl in his phone. The next day he texts you and asks you out for sometime mid-week. You say yes, but the text conversation continues on about work, friends, where you like to go etc. the basic first date questions. Well it isn’t too bad to try and get to know the guy before you meet up. Before the date you spend a couple of hours each evening exchange flirty text messages, which excites you more about the date. The day has finally come and you are all dressed up and ready to talk to this guy and see if he’s actually as cool in person as he is on text.
You go back home disappointed in his actual lack of interest. The reason he was quiet at the party was because he has horrible conversation skills! Homeboy could not really explain what he did as a job or his interests for that matter, and the worst part, he kept checking his phone and sometimes even replied to messages.
I knew I was bad with the texting but at least I’m as interesting in text as I am in person. This is not a façade. Anyway that’s the last time I date someone who seems a little too interested in me over text and I will maintain my mysteriousness by simply responding “ I guess we will find out on our date, wont we?” just so I don’t fall for the same trap twice!
I know it’s the 21st century and all, but honestly, I just want to be swooped off my feet in person and not over text. That’s all I’m asking for.